Question:
Is anal sex required?
The Snappy Miss Pippi Von Trapp
16 years ago
Why do so many gay men seem to think that anal sex is a required activity?

I see a lot of questions here at Yahoo Answers from men who assume that all gay men have to do it. Even if they're scared of it, or not interested in it, or even repulsed by it, they seem to be operating under the belief that it's an activity that they'll eventually HAVE to participate in.

I tried it a couple of times in my earlier adulthood and did not like it at all, so I simply stopped engaging in it. Over the years, I was fortunate to encounter plenty of men who likewise were not interested in it. So I'm certainly not anti-anal, but it's a bit alarming that so many men nowadays seem to think it's their only option for sex.

So, why is there this prevalent notion of anal sex being a required activity? Is it because so many men ARE into it that some others feel pressured to do it? Or is it just the lemming mentality of being compelled to do what others are doing?
Thirteen answers:
16 years ago
Thank you! I totally agree, and it gets annoying; people saying stuff like "If you didn't like it then you weren't doing it properly, or you've not done it enough times to get used to it".



It's like, I don't like aubergine. I don't like it any more after I've eaten it a hundred times. It still tastes just as nasty to me, even though the next person might love it after the first taste. Lol, not sure that was the best comparison, but I'm sure you get what I mean.
MSU69
16 years ago
It is assume that if one gay then the only thing we have on minds as who going to top and who will bottom. Not all gay men do or want anal sex. It is something personal and pleasing to both partners.



Many gay men enjoy the pleasures of mutual masturbation and oral sex as there out let for sexual activity.



Chose what you want and play it safe. But have FUN!
16 years ago
Because there is no gay sexual education in schools, you just assume it (but you know assume makes an *** out of u and me).

I find it quite unpleasant, but to get to a certain level of intimacy as that seems to be important for many, I mean to have equivalent penetration that straight people have? do you get me? The other ways seem so superficial somehow.

I don't like being told I haven't done it right either. Why blame me for it hurting it's the actual thing that's hurting me, maybe that's wrong.
16 years ago
Hello,

I totally agree with you, one hundred percent.

I am a gay man and when i was younger i felt like it was something I had to do.

I didn't know any other alternatives.

However, a lot of guys I have met like it. It feels nice for them, not for everybody. It is kind of like marmite you either love it, or hate it.

I tried it because it was the only way i knew how to express love with a male.

I now, in my older age know that there is many different ways.



Jake
bluehowler
16 years ago
Because when most people think of gay men "doing it", they think of anal sex. All the gay jokes in het society almost exclusively refer to this activity - maybe this creates a feeling among gay men that they have to do it??? I don't know...I have to admit, it's what I think too...
16 years ago
That's it, I want to ride on your float in the Pride Parade. You just put into words the sentiment I've tried to express on many occasions.



I don't think it's necessary and I certainly don't like being on the receiving end. There are plenty of others ways to express yourself.
Nick Wood
16 years ago
Many guys just want to perform some kind of love making that doesn't involve the mouth.
KayKay
16 years ago
It is a total myth.





It is so much more common among straight guys than people think, trust me.
16 years ago
Taking it through the back alley sure is overrated... but sometimes it's... nice.
pull your punches
16 years ago
It's in the "How to be gay" Handbook.

Haven't you read it?

XD
ASHlEb00.
16 years ago
SHlT I'm down for it
16 years ago
It's not required, and I think you a re kind of being stereotypical here.
Ljelajreal
16 years ago
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