Does my 33-year old boyfriend sound Gay or Socially Inept?

Question

I have posted a similar question and an answer put a different take on things so I have reposted...

When he was 13 he says he'd experiment somewhat with a boy on a few occasions, however, he says he was naive and didn't know what it meant. He also says he was not the recipient (I doubt this)

He has never had a 'proper' relationship and admits to having sex only twice in his lifetime. He has looked up gay porn "out of curiousity" but says he never masturbated to it. Family and friends have thought of him as being gay.

He is the typical stereotype of a gay man, very sensitive and gets on well with women. He self harms and is quite troubled.

I know I could be jumping to conclusions, but I've had my suspicions for a while now and I wonder if he could be in denial. He comes from a strict Protestant background with 3 sisters.

Answer 1

If you are uncomfortable with him, break it off and move on. Let the man find someone else (man or woman) that will not question his every move. You aren't helping him by being with him while questioning his every move, thought, action and past history.

Answer 2

I had my first sexual experiences with a male friend at 14 years old. We both knew what we were doing.I moved on to cross-dressing.I could quit for about 6 months and I was back dressing up. I did not have sex with a woman until I was around 25 years old.

I am 36 now and have a bisexual relationship with another man. I have been married 10 years to my wife.If you meet me you would never think I was this way.

Answer 3

No straight man has any type of "experiments" with men at the age of 13 and is naive about it. You shouldn't even have to ask that. What type of straight man looks up gay porn, that would make me vomit! I am not homophobic.

Answer 4

I had my first sexual reports with a male buddy at 14 years historic. We each knew what we had been doing.I moved directly to move-dressing.I would give up for approximately 6 months and I used to be again dressing up. I didn't have intercourse with a girl till I used to be round 25 years historic. I am 36 now and feature a bisexual courting with a different guy. I were married 10 years to my spouse.If you meet me you could certainly not believe I used to be this manner.

Answer 5

sounds like hes gay but is scared to admit it If you can accept him for who he is if he turns out to be gay tell him this and that you wont tell anyone.

Answer 6

lets face it, straight guys don't look up gay porn. move on

Answer 7

You call him your 'boyfriend' and that's the most supportive you can be... Hmmm... Tell him his 'real' friends are waiting for him to 'come on over'...we know how to treat 'our men'...

Answer 8

Gay, gay, gay.