People at school say I'm gay ( I am ) But I don't want to admit it at 14 , what do I say if they ask ?

Question

People at school say I act a bit camp , and some were down the line people started calling me gay ( In a mean way ) but now that's stopped but I don't know what to say when I'm asked If I'm gay , I don't like saying " No " cos they can tell I'm not telling the truth , but I don't want to say "Yes " cos i'll get the crap kicked out of me , and I don't want any one to know just yet ..... What do I say ? :)

Answer 1

I don't blame you for not wanting to come out yet. I waited until I was out of high school so that I didn't have to deal with the drama. High school is tough enough as it is. They shouldn't even be asking you that--it's rude and really no one's business until you are ready to come out.



So, this is what you do: answer their question with another question. This is good because it will give you time to think and get over the surprise. Like "What makes you say that?" or "Who told you that?" Something like that. Then you're not lying you're just avoiding the question.

Answer 2

Say; 'Hey, watch what you're saying! I don't like this kind of talk.'

Look furious while you say it.

If it is repeated, frown and walk away.

Don't come out till you have completed you education and are old enough to move out and support yourself.

You don't have to tell any bunch of willfully ignorant folk a thing. Live your own life and leave them to get on with theirs.

You have been given the wonderful gift of being gay. You'll meet some marvelous people and, if you're honest with yourself, you'll have a happy and fulfilled life.

It is gay people who have kept science, the arts, and so on going. This is OUR civilisation.

Without a Lesbian, Florence Nightingale, or Alan Turing, a gay man, most of us, including your family members and school "friends" probably would not exist.

Move to somewhere where you don't have to keep hiding you true self - you don't have to screech at everyone that you're gay, but you won't have to lie about it either. Just keep quiet, frown slightly, change the subject. Let them live with their problem.

Answer 3

"Why do you care? You got a crush on me?"



Just flip the pressure from you to them. Why does it matter if you're gay, anyway? Unless the person asking wants to date you, it's pretty darn irrelevant. Point that out, if you want. Or, a personal favorite, tell the truth in a way that no one will believe. Adopt a highly sarcastic tone and say, "Yes, yes of COURSE I'm gay. How could you even question it? I just LOVE men so much, I can't help myself..." Then roll your eyes and say, "Come on, really?" That's a bit riskier, but it will work if you do it right.

Answer 4

"Thats pretty personal, dont you think?"



Cant sit on the fence forever, kid. If lying makes you uncomfortable and you're afraid of the truth... life is going to be rough anyway. You arent really saving yourself that much stress, are you?



PS why dont you talk to the school counselor? Im sure they have some good ideas or can at least be a support for you.

Answer 5

They are cowards and fools, tell your parents about any harassment.You are not necessarily gay,you are just 14 years old .It could just be phase if you have those feelings. You tell your parents everything (your feelings,the harassment) so you can get help and feel better. You do not tell harassing persons in school your private business or feelings

Answer 6

Truth it, you can't change the fact that your gay, so be happy and accept it! Never listen to anyone that makes fun of you, either give them the cold shoulder, or just say "Yup." Trust me, they won't touch you.

Answer 7

I used to get that all the time and I would only have one response...



They'd ask something along the lines of: "You're gay aren't you?"

My reply: "I'm very happy, thank you for asking..."



It would shut them down every time...

Answer 8

how can they tell you are not saying the truth if you say no? Tell them it is none of their business, because it really isn't.

Answer 9

Yes, preach this $hit, I'm with you.

Answer 10

just say what a straight person would say "hell no im attracted to women and women only" that's what my straight friend said when a guy asked out him out

Answer 11

Ask if they're projecting their own insecurities on to you.

Answer 12

"Are you *really* sure you wanna keep your mouth open around me?"

Answer 13

your still young and might still be str8