Making tough choices? (bondage users only)?

Question

I'm a pretty big bondage freak. I just adore the sensation of being tied up, and rubber especially. I spend hours online watching scenes and looking at pictures. I've only done some scenes, like with mummification with duct tape, saran wrap. But I feel like I'm so positively sure that I could do so much more. Here's the problem, I feel like I'm just too attached to real life. I always kind of imagine myself being a slave to certain people and even found one guy that would let you be a slave if you're in college (which I am) in exchange for lodging. Btw, no one that I know knows I like bondage.

I love bondage to heaven's end, but I feel like it just wouldn't connect with my real life. And while I'm going to be 21 next year, (20 currently), I kind of feel like I'm just always going to have this unfulfilled need to just be overtaken by a master, even if for a day. I feel like I'm choosing real life. And as weird as this may sound, it is such a big deal to me, because bondage is really important to me.

Has anyone else kind of tried to "forget" about bondage even though your kind of obsessed with it? Usually, the intense people in bondage have bondage take over there life... I dunno, I just kind of wanted to rant, and think about what could've been.

But as per the question, have any other gay or even straight people out there had similar feelings?

Answer 1

Ah this is a pretty age old question. I'm a submissive female, and I like bondage. Not enough to want to hand over my life permanently, but enough to take some pain xD



You know you don't have to give up bondage entirely. You could find somebody in a relationship who is willing to play the 'master' role. Their slave in the bedroom sort of thing. You could even submit yourself entirely to them on weekends or on certain days you two are both of work etc. For that day, you are a slave. Fantasies don't always have to interfere with real life.



There are kink/bondage dating websites, you might be able to find a special somebody who will be willing to keep in in the bedroom.



My girlfriend and I are both kinky. Behind bedroom doors, I'm the sub and she's my master. Elsewhere, we're a normal gay couple and I have a very dominant personality.



Now moral of the story--you can have your fetishes without them taking over your life. You might not get the full experience of, I don't know, being able to be cuffed for a week straight, but you can still roleplay. Sign little contracts agreeing to be a slave for a week or a day, or just have a session an hour a night. Some people are 'secret' 24/7 which essentially is, one is master one is slave, they are into bondage, s/m and all that good stuff, and at home, outside of public view, that's how they act. In public, one is generally more submissive, but not openly kinky.

Answer 2

It has been a problem for me, given my age. The only person I found who would be a master for someone of my age turned out to be not so nice... I've just put it to the back of my mind as best I can, and settled for the hankies around the bedposts. Not ideal, but it's not like I can get anything more right now...

Answer 3

whilst confronted with a complicated determination you're able to desire to comprehend precisely what your targets are in existence and which decision will deliver you closer to that purpose. Is it important to you to have a unswerving better half in an prolonged-term relationship (perhaps particularly in case you're older)? Or do you want to journey existence totally now when you consider which you may on no account comprehend what existence and the destiny will deliver (rather in the journey that your nevertheless on your 20's)? I had to make the same determination myself, and chosen passionate suggestions-blowing intercourse with assured heartbreak over a helpful, being concerned guy for a relationship. whilst looking decrease back on their lives, human beings will continually remorseful appropriate to the failings they did not do. not the failings they tried and made a mistake or failed at. i don't remorseful approximately my determination for a 2nd, and that i think of if it somewhat is going to be the terrific intercourse you will possibly ever have it somewhat is all somewhat worth it. terrific of success!

Answer 4

I used to be involved with a Dominatrix. And I really really enjoyed it. And I really clicked with my Dominatrix. But the way life has gone, we've 'broken up' per say. And I do miss it. So I can kind of understand where you are coming from.

Answer 5

Creepy

Answer 6

just be careful