Sexual identity terminology question?

Question

My wife of 4 years has told me many a times that she thinks like a guy. She kinda walks like a guy, and acts like a guy. She does get turned on by women quite frequently and is very attracted to other women. I asked her if she ever wanted to be a guy and she says no without hesitation. My question is mainly this. If she has no desire to be a male, however thinks and acts like a male, is there a terminology for that? Not that I am trying to label her, but it seems like we have a word for everything under the sun and didn't know if one applies to this situation. Transgender and transexual don't fit for sure. I saw something called cissexual and that term makes no sense at all to me. It seems like that just describes someone who thinks like a male and is happy being male. But I can't find anything for someone who is happy being a woman, but thinks she like a male. My wife thinks so much like a male that it is hard to find anyway shape or form that she thinks like a woman at all.

Answer 1

it totally depends on how she personally identifies, really. gender identity is wired in the brain, but i do think perception of that wiring also plays parts in it.



if she just feels she's more typically masculine than feminine, but still identifies as female, she could easily be fully mentally female and just a bit more masculine and less feminine than most. though i have no idea how it makes sense, it seems like some people also attribute excessive emotion/instinctual tendencies to women and logic to men, so if she feels that way about those tendencies, she may just be a more logical, less emotional woman.



transgender really refers to anyone who's not cisgendered. cisgendered = having your mental gender identity and physical sex matching, while transgendered is anything else. people might also be transsexual and prefer to have their physical sex surgically corrected to match their mental gender. but, some people can also be transgendered and be okay with their body as it is. if she identifies as mentally male, (s)he still might be fine keeping female anatomy, and even presenting as female, since some people are like that.

there's also another subcategory of genderqueer under transgendered, which consists of people mentally a combination of male And female. they might have atypical preferences in gender expression and/or prefer to have mixed gender-specific anatomy, or even no gender-specific anatomy to varying levels. but, they might also be mixed mentally male and female, but prefer a singular gender expression, and present themselves physically and/or socially as fully male or female.

Answer 2

Genderqueer or Bigender.



Cis female is a natural born female who psychologically identifies as a female.

A cis female might have some or many personality characteristics that are considered masculine, butch, or commonly associated with men or boys, but unless she identifies with and seeks to project a male persona, she is still a cis female.

Answer 3

Personally I don't think there is a way you can think, walk or act like a guy, considering all guys (and girls) think, walk and act differently to begin with. That and being attracted to women doesn't make someone more "guy-like" >_< Never heard of gay men? They aren't all stereotype of the week-ish you know.



Either way, I guess you could call that gender-queer, for lack of another word that I can think of, but I'd say it depends more on what someone identifies as, rather than how they act, think, or walk.

Answer 4

It's not a matter of what you think is thinking stereotypically male, but a matter of whether she identify as male or not, and it seems to me that she does not. all these other ideas of what you think thinking male is is irrelevant. There is a term that describes your wife however, it is called woman. Cissexual means a person possess a match between their sex and gender-idenity. Your wife is a cissexual woman.

Answer 5

Simply put, mannish. Whether that word has negative connotations or not is on you. She also sounds what is commonly referred to as bicurious, ie., questioning, or having interest in same sex activity.

Answer 6

One term used is genderqueer.

Answer 7

It sound like she is just a masculine female.