Gay friends, yes or no?

Question

Okay, time to fess up. If your friend decided to change his/her sexual orientation, would you drop them as a friend or support their decision?

I, a straight female, have met and befriended quite a few gay/lesbian people who I could call the best and most kind-hearted people in the world.

And if the gay/straight barrier has been broken, then why must scientists, psychologists, and the news media strive to crack the mystery of one's orientation?

I believe that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay/bisexual/bicurious. And don't even try that religious crap on me. I've got two religious parents and guess what? I'm not religious what-so-ever. So don't try that card.

Also, please give me your opinion on these clips from 60 Minutes News.
http://60minutes.yahoo.com/segment/68/gay_or_straight

Answer 1

If someone drops a friend because of their sexual orientation, they've lost a friend and their self respect. Neither are easy to get back ...



Re the film clips ~ interesting, but how nice will it be when LGBT people are just accepted, rather than studied.

Answer 2

Like Shadow said many posts above me, people do not "change" their orientation. They may have been in the closet for many years and are just now coming out, or maybe they were already out and you just assumed that they were straight until they told you otherwise. However, some people *do* "change" their orientation, and those people get my blood boiling. Just because a man has wronged you or you want attention from guys does *not* warrant you to go off the deep end and "declare" that you're gay or bi. That just casts a major shadow over the *real* LGBT community.



That being said, if a friend came out to me, I wouldn't mind at all. I, being bi, would understand what they're going through (if they're hesitant or uncertain, y'know?), and I would be there for them more than ever. Orientation doesn't matter to me. The *person* does.

Answer 3

I did find out something like this about my best friend and things did not change between us as friends. We are just as good friends as we always were. I guess you can say I support her decision merely because I don't oppose it but it wasn't like "go girl- so proud of you for coming out!" I was like OK whatever. I really don't give a crap who she dates. I would like to finally see her happy with someone which to my knowledge has yet to happen.



I didn't see the 60 minutes piece- but I don't feel like I missed out on anything important. It's not like I spend time wondering why people are gay. I have my own life to live.

Answer 4

I have two gay friends that I love to death and that I consider family. They are some of the sweetest people that I have ever met you are right that I don't see anything wrong with their orientation. They didn't ask or chose to be gay; that is just the way that God made them and they fully accept it and embrace it.

Answer 5

I'd just have 1 question for anyone that decided to change their sexual orientation: Why?



As for those clips, THAT ENTIRE THING WAS **********************!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Yes, I censored it myself ;) ) GENDER NON-CONFORMITY DOES NOT = GAY!!!!!!!!!!!! If that were true, I'd be a gay man, not a lesbian!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Yes, I'm a transwoman and lesbian.) People need to get this one through their thick skulls. 60 Minutes also needs to not put that crap up there. It's reinforcing negative stereotypes that, at the least leads to wasted years and at most leads to suicide. I wouldn't be surprised if that show was one of the many things that leads to another transperson's suicide.

Answer 6

Funny...my best friend just came out at 31. I have suspected since we were in our teens! She was kinda put out when i told her that..lol! A friend is a friend and it would and has changed nothing between us. The only thing i find weird about my best friend being a Lesbian is that she's not in love with me! She says my hubby wouldn't like that..lol!

Answer 7

okay, first they do NOT change sexual orientation



second, why should it matter if your friend is gay or straight? I love my friends because they are fun to hang out with, they are intelligent and have a great sense of humour



I do want the best for them, but if they like someone of their own gender - I'll support them dearly



oh, and I'm gay myself

Answer 8

The majority of my friends are straight so if they changed their sexual orientation I wouldn't care since I am already gay. I would probably go out to gay bars more though.

Answer 9

sexual orientation doesn't change a person, i could care less about who they go to the bedroom with, it's none of my business.



and the same goes for things like creed, or age or gender.



why discriminate on something irrelevant?



can't watch the clips at work, so can't comment on them, will edit a comment in later tonight.

Answer 10

I would support my friend in their decision. Isn't that what friends are for? It isn't easy to 'come out of the closet' so be there for your friend and show them what a true friend is all about. Give them support for what they are going through...it's a tough thing to go through by yourself.

Answer 11

I dont choose my friends based on weather or not there values match mine, So if 1 were to turn sraight or christian (even worse) Nothing would change with the friendships from my end.

Answer 12

i rather have 100 gay friends then one normal friend

and the thing about religion if you dont mind me saying

forget about what the church thinks



Christ knows you and he loves you even if you are gay

i think this is what Christians dont understand but instead see something they dont understand and judge....like myself i have both male and female genetics so i'm like half / half



i once told a person in the church this and the response i got back wasnt very christ like, but anyway i know god loves me for who i am and thats all that matter....bye have a nice day

Answer 13

Most of my friends are gay, but I have a few straight friends. Whether they are gay or not doesn't really matter. It's the friend part that matters.

Answer 14

thank you! ...for being open minded and strong enough to 'fess up'. kudos!



as for the scientist, physcs, and the media you mention, all i can say is, revenue!



didn't see the 60 mins thing, sorry, i'm really not interested in what it says. i know who (and what) i am, and i'm quite comfortable with that knowlege.

Answer 15

i have 2 bi sexual friends 1 male & 1 female but i don't see them much but they're still my friends despite they're sexuality

Answer 16

Drop them on the spot without even batting an eyelid.

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Just dont have the time or the inclination to deal with anybodies sexual complexes.

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Answer 17

Of course I wouldn't care. I don't think it matters. A friend is a friend.

Answer 18

Gay or straight, a person who is my friend will always be my friend

Answer 19

if you were my friend, i would accept you for who you are not who you choose to date. thats what real friends do, support there friend in every decision they make in life

Answer 20

No problems with gays or lesbians most are very nice people.

Answer 21

It shouldn't matter. Friends are people you love, regardless.



Love,

Blue

Answer 22

It's same thing with asking "Are you racist, yes or no?"

Answer 23

I was going to comment on your question but then I read this:



"And don't even try that religious crap on me. I've got two religious parents and guess what? I'm not religious what-so-ever. So don't try that card."



You have issues, and I don't like threats.