Question:
I think I'm gay, but too scared to know what to do. Help me.?
rick
2009-02-27 21:49:06 UTC
i think im gay but can't cause of religion. let tell the story, at age 5 i had a dream of me naked with a guy and jumping into his arms. in 4th-6th grade the guys took showers and got TOO excited around their bodies. in 8th grade i learned about porn and the first thing i typed in was "hot gay men" and done it ever since. and now (age 17) i'm starting to believe im gay but still can't tell if i am. i want to have something with a guy but is too scared, not to be noticed but of religion. i need help knowing if i am gay or not, and if its ok(if i am gay).
27 answers:
2009-02-27 21:54:14 UTC
You probably are and so what---God made you that way and no religion can say you are not worthy of God.
Christina [Pacman]
2009-02-28 05:59:45 UTC
If You're Not Attracted To Women But Attracted To Men Then That's Gay, And There's Nothing Wrong With It.



Christian Right?? I Says No Where In The Bible That Homosexual Relationships Are Wrong (Unless You Bring Sex Into The Mix) But That Means If Two Straight People That Are Incapable Of Having Children Have Sex Then They're "Sinning" Too.



But Anyhoo It's You're Life, Be Proud Of Who You Are And Live It How You Feel Fit It's Perfectly Normal To Be Gay And You Shouldn't Be Scared. When I Came Out (Bi.) I Told My Closest Friends First..That Made It A Lot Easier Because They Were Supportive. Now Everyone Knows And They Couldn't Care Less..That Majority Of People Judge For Who You Are But There Will Be Some Homophobes That Will Judge Based On Sexuality.
2009-02-28 05:56:23 UTC
Ypu can be gay even if you have a religion. I go to church And I have gay friends there. God wants you to find love. I don't thik it matters weather its with a guy, girl, cat, dog or anything else.

Just ask yourself if you're gay. Forget everyone else and think of just yourself for this moment. If the answer is yes, that doesnt make you a bad person. The last three guys I had a crush on turned out to be gay but that didnt stop me or anyone else from still being friends with them.
xxxpoetxxx
2009-02-28 05:59:11 UTC
from wht i read and understand you are gay but you could just be curious lots of people go throught that stage but because you said that you have been acting that way for so long i hink you most likly are gay and your right its not a bad thing so if you do find out or relize your gy dont hide it it will tear you up inside. my friend went through the same thing you are going thruogh and he regreted letting people know. you should really try dating both a guy and a girl and see what you perfer you could also be a pansexual.
noname
2009-02-28 06:02:22 UTC
Dude, I'm pretty sure that you're gay, and that's AWESOMEEEE and totally ok!! =D

And don't worry so much about what religion says about gay ppl.

I rlly think it's not a sin. Ppl have misinterpreted the bible....



P.S....Don't listen to those ppl saying that u should have sex with a girl. Sheesh...like having sex with someone of the opposite gender is gonna magically turn you straight. Ppl don't ''turn''gay or straight, they're born like that.
2009-02-28 05:58:29 UTC
Yes, you sound gay, and that is okay.



It is not the majority experience, but it is as natural as being left-handed in a right-handed world. It's just who God made you to be.



Check out the Gay Christian Network and find guys your own age who are also religious and gay, and happy about that.
wings like a raven
2009-02-28 05:54:07 UTC
dude, you really cant help the way you feel about others. i personally think religeon is a waste of time cuz its just ment to scare you into being a good person. you can still be a good person and gay. i think you are gay but listen, if you think you are, now thats what matters! use your own head. im sure its a good one

-nick-
2009-02-28 05:54:54 UTC
dont be scared. being gay is nothing to be afraid of. its just society. just because you dont know really well doesnt mean your gay. you might be bisexual. such as i. i can compare my age to you as well. i am 17 years old. im pretty sure you are gay. i hope life takes you the way you want it to be. good luck
2009-02-28 05:55:26 UTC
Umm yea I think but you can still be straight. you pick the lifestyle you want to lead. But there is nothing wrong with being gay.
baxterville
2009-02-28 06:27:48 UTC
It sounds like you were pretty sure you were gay from an early age, which isn't uncommon. Most religions regard homosexual activity as a sin, but don't consider being gay sinful, since sexual orientation is as innate to someone as eye color or musical talent. It isn't until you act on your gay impulses that you cross the line.



I grew up in a devoutly Catholic family and still have a very strong faith, even though I'm a lesbian. Quite a few of my gay friends are also religious and had to find a way to accept themselves without losing the faith that was also an important part of their identities.



In my case, I try to hold myself to the same standards that would be expected of me if I were straight. In other words, being gay doesn't give me license to be promiscuous or otherwise use people for recreation, but as an adult I've given myself the same freedom to date and search for a life partner as my straight brother and sister have. It was my intent to "save myself" for my life partner, even though I failed on that count, just as most straight people do. But having my religion as a guideline for living a good life has generally served me well and I've avoided a lot of the pitfalls that have plagued my non-religious friends.



God doesn't make mistakes, so he knew what he was doing when he created you exactly as you are. Religious teachings, as we know them, are translations from translations that often don't reflect the original intent of the text. For instance, "thou shall not kill" as originally written was "thou shall not murder." The difference is subtle, but important. That's why it's still possible to live a good, moral life, without renouncing your homosexuality. Just apply the same standards to yourself that your religion would apply to a straight person, except that you'll be looking for companionship from a male.



Just be patient, since you'll become more comfortable with your orientation as you get older. It's especially hard for gay guys to live openly when they're still in school, since male homosexuality isn't fashionable. But once you're out in the world, you'll find it easier to meet people with whom you feel connected. Just approach dating the same way you would with a girl.



Don't feel pressured to come out to your family, since there's no pressing reason you should at this point. A lot of people wait until they're in serious relationships, since that's when it becomes more important that other people know. And very often, when people do come out to their families, they find out their families knew all along, but didn't say anything. And even if your parents aren't thrilled about it (it takes them a while to change all the hopes and expectations they had for you, just as it will take you a while to accept them), they'll probably grow to accept it over time. My mother cried when I told her, but came to realize that gayness isn't something I "chose" for myself. Sure, she'd be ecstatic if I married a man, but at least she no longer tries to set me up with her friends' sons. Good luck to you!
Gabriel.
2009-02-28 05:59:00 UTC
Well you definitely have a sexual attraction towards members of the same sex, so yes I would say you are a homosexual (considering you have not said anything about women) and there is nothing you can do about it.
2009-02-28 06:34:41 UTC
Its soooo ok! You will be so much happier. Forget religion. Especially if it is the one thing making you feel uncomfortable.
2009-02-28 05:58:08 UTC
You just described my early years exactly and I'm as gay as it gets
Diabetic Zombee
2009-02-28 07:37:20 UTC
dude just try it out you may like it or you may not, and if you cant because of religion you should forget about religion and go for it that stuff is kinda stupid anyways
pixie7
2009-02-28 05:56:37 UTC
o.k yeah your gay or at the very least bi.

(from the information your giving us)

Yes ts o.k!!! why wouldn't it be?

you cant just change or stop being the way you are for anyone.

Its the way you are love yourself and feel free to love!
?
2009-02-28 06:05:05 UTC
I think ur gay... And theres nothing wrong with that! Be urself and follow ur god how u want to!



xoxo
2009-02-28 05:53:25 UTC
pretty sure you're gay. or maybe you just like the way naked men look...???

Yeah, pretty sure youre gay.
Chris T
2009-02-28 05:55:19 UTC
Sounds to me like you're gay.



Enjoy yourself! You think God only gets a hard-on for one or the other?
prplefilth
2009-02-28 05:54:04 UTC
uh...

imo i think your gay considering that you watch hot gay guy porn
2009-02-28 05:52:48 UTC
You're gay.
Britney Fanツ
2009-02-28 05:53:39 UTC
In christianity they say "Its a sin" but i dont believe that is..

most peole r born gay



maybe Curious..

Experiment with a dude
Meg K
2009-02-28 05:53:54 UTC
gay and ok
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2009-02-28 05:55:02 UTC
you will be fine,

just be youtrself, even if it is gay,

and its FINE to be gay! :)
sidthecleaner
2009-02-28 05:56:35 UTC
I think you already know that your a flamming, ragging homo. You don't need someone to tell you that you like meat sticks!!!!!!!
seasnake
2009-02-28 05:54:08 UTC
snap out of it, you are not gay, concentrate on girls or career instead
JACKSKY
2009-02-28 05:54:34 UTC
dude im 13.... and even i no wat to do.... go to a bar or sumfin.... and have sex wid a gurl then u will find out!!! =D
2009-02-28 05:53:55 UTC
I will tell your pastor! you will rot in purgatory!


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