I have been dating my boyfriend for five months now. He is a manly guy, loves working out, and sports. We've had conversations about gay people, while I support them, he doesnt. So leads me to my story..one night he fell asleep while I already had his phone&I looked through his stuff(we are currently living in italy&he is about to go to Korea). I found on his phone: messages to an ex saying he wants her to come stay with him in italy or when he comes home on leave and added "if your single that is ;)." Also, he was talking to a striper from this strip club near us sayin "I wanna see you. I want to come visit" and she would reply "come visit. No one is at the club."&the messages would stop.he had TONS of photos in his phone from porn websites&some naked photos of himself. I looked in his texts to find he had been texting Italian numbers without names. He sent them photos of himself naked/he had sent a link attatched but it was all in Italian and said his name&where he lived. It was at least ten different numbers. When I confronted him he tried to kick me out the house, called me psychotic&He told me he had never met them online&he had always done it and never met up with the striper/numbers were massage services and he doesn't know why he does this&that he would stop. Fast forward, 2 months&he's at work and I decided to go through his tablet. I looked in his his history&found searches "T4M" in italy&KOREA on Craigslist,he even clicked an ad that said "HIV pos" and tons of other posts for casual sex where we live&where he is about to live with trans&women. I don't want to say anything with Christmas tomorrow. How am I suppose to trust him in korea?now I want to get tested for HIV. I feel hurt, I can't confront him because he will just call me psychotic&turn it around on me. Please help!