My sister may be transgender? I need advice?

Question

Hi- I need help...going to be long :/
I'm a 15yo girl and my younger sister is 12. (for sake of simplicity I'm gonna use female pronouns in this q).
I've always considered myself VERY open minded in this dept. I questioned my sexuality for awhile, and I have a solid amount of gay and trans friends and fam, who I 100% love and support in every way. My family is very liberal and I was raised to be very accepting. My sister told me she was gay about 6mo ago, which I had been suspecting for years. Im totally fine with this and don't see her any different. But, she came out to me as genderfluid abt 2weeks ago, and I have been trying so hard to understand this ever since. We had a huge fight after this bc I impulsively said it sounded like a mental disorder & she got really mad, understandably

Basically I need someone to explain to me exactly what being genderfluid is, bc my sister said it was like she felt like a girl some days and a boy other days, and this just doesn't make any sense to me. I get being trans, but idk how a persons gender can change... Can someone explain this??

I am starting to believe she is more trans than gendefluid as she cut her hair and mostly dresses/acts like a boy, but idk if I will ever see her as anything but my sister. She told me she wants to use male and female pronouns depending on the day. Which is really hard..I just need advice.

(Pls don't hate/say anything negative abt my sister. I support her no matter what, I'm just confused)

Thank you

Answer 1

Hey there! There are two concepts here that you need to understand before you can really understand anything further:



One, that sex is what someone biologically is; you are male, female, or intersex (less common, and usually "fixed" with forced and consensual surgery very young)



Two, that gender is what society perceives the sexes to be: e.g. men to be masculine, women to be feminine. Gender is unique to everyone, especially gender expression.



Your sibling is experiencing gender dysphoria. This is when someone's gender does not match up to their sex and this has been scientifically proven by multiple studies to be real, and not a disorder as disorders are typically defined - simply something that is, and something we should accept and try to help ease in those who have to deal with it. The simple fact is that if your sibling labels themselves as genderfluid, then there's a lot of other stuff they're dealing with too - they're likely very uncomfortable in their body some days, and experience fluctuating feelings towards the things that make their sex. This is what makes someone genderfluid - fluctuating feelings towards gender.



Because of how gender is, inherently, there are grey areas between masculine and feminine. In some cultures, there are over ten genders - multiple genders aren't new, or made up, they've been experienced by many across time and land. It's good you're open minded, but agreeing with the other person with a long answer does nothing to help your sibling, because the genderless society they are envisioning is so, so far off that we need to make do with what's here, now.



Ultimately, even if you don't fully understand or believe in what your sibling is labeling themselves as, the kind and helpful thing to do is just comply. Maybe when they're older they'll settle down and decide, but for now, just help smooth the journey. It's not too hard to use new pronouns or names, because it's not like you use them that often in conversation anyways.



Good luck to you and your sibling!

Answer 2

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German poll for the things that irritate men than women, where one of the magazines published in the German competent Women's Affairs survey showed that:









1- 71% of men hate women take on the task of inference or a map of the city road during a car ride.





2 - angry firemen om women saying that he does not have what you wear at a time when its coffers are packed with clothes and magazine reported that 39% of the men were not able to recognize where the problem in this case.







3 - Among anger as 63% of the men asked women not to think that my weight has increased slightly.







4 - 57% of the men that they did not like the idea of extending the period allocated for shopping.







5 - and the magazine reported As for the complaint that 41% of men said they get angry when women complain of simple themes, such as the presence of some socks lying on the ground.







6 - also wonder 24% of the men from the women, the reason to keep all their belongings in the purse, except the key to the house

Answer 3

Gender fluid means your gender changes sometimes and just try to use her preferred pronouns and dont worry about it. She'll figure everything out

Answer 4

Your sibling simply is.

I know it's difficult to handle these situations and you sibling is an amazing person no matter what.

My advice, ask them about gender neutral pronouns like them/their/they. It is easier to handle, and you wouldn't upset them for being wrong. And more advice, maybe they are going through a phase, maybe it wont last long. just accept for now hun

Answer 5

genderfluid means someone who switches between boy and girl its kinda like if you loved pizza and icecream but not every day you wanted pizza and not everyday you wanted ice cream XD its just they dont feel comfortable in one gender and so they switch to feel comfortable like how some people wear makeup to feel good about what they look like or clothing :3

Answer 6

Shes just going through a phase of deciding her gender

Answer 7

This is silly, she is your brother. Get used to it.