Bi or not Bi.... That is my question!?

Question

Ok, so at the beginning of the year, I had my first encounter with a male sexually...... He was my best friend, and we talked about doing ALOT of stuff together, but never went through with it.... He saw me masterbate, and we eventually rubbed eachother's penises through our shorts for about 10 min, but nothing more..... we are both christians, and neither agree with being gay, it just happened. we have both been trying very hard to turn this around and do what we believe is the right thing, only i seem to be failing..... I dont want to be bi or gay, but i am oddly enough turned on when i see a *****, or hear about intercourse, or see this lost friend of mine at the pool..... i want to know if there are any people that think if i were to have a real encounter like planned with my best friend, if i might be able to get over this quicker and easier. if so, i would need a partner to experiment with, seeing as i have none. please answer!!!

Answer 1

Alas, poor Yorik. I knew him, Horatio.....

Answer 2

OK, I saw your second question, too, but came back to this one. You are being too impatient. You wanna get this "whatever it is" out of your system so you can get back to the way that you you've planned your life (so far). I understand that, but don't rush into a sexual encounter with someone immediately just because you now have these "feelings". Plus, you need to deal with your religious beliefs and personal feelings, as you said... Take your time, the right situation will come along eventually. Hey, why not go back to your friend, is it that impossible now?

Auntie Kookoo

Answer 3

Please get in touch with the gay center, the gay hotline, and pflag.org so you can discuss your feelings and fears. There are churches out there that do not harass gay people; they are actually welcoming. The last thing you need right now is some preacher telling you that you're sick.

Go meet some other gay young men; you will find that many are xtian and learning to deal with that part of themselves too.

If you have gay feelings, nothing is going to change that. You can push it away for a while, hide it, but then one day it will come bursting forth and those feelings will demand that you seek happiness. HUGS

Answer 4

The fundamental thing that you seem to be missing is: that being bi or gay is not an evil thing. It isn't a disease that one can get over.



Experimentation might well bring you to the conclusion that you are gay, religious beliefs notwithstanding. Then you will "suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune" until you can come to terms with the dissonance between your nature and your beliefs.



Remember this: you can't change your nature, but you can change your beliefs.

Answer 5

It sounds to me like you are, at least to some degree, attracted to other males. So you may be bisexual, or bi-curious... and that's fine. You are what you are... don't let your religion get in the way of it, because bisexuality is natural.

Answer 6

thats so cute. i have the same problem. but we did way more then rubb. i haven't ever been able to get these feelings away