Is homosexuality really a choice?

Question

I've been thinking lately and before i say anything i am not bashing in any homosexuals. Is homosexuality really a choice? My theory here is that everyone is born bisexual as a baby. The surroundings of the kid will determine its path chosen of sexuality.Maybe his perspective of how he sees affection for people too? ( usually homosexual people come from divorced parents, traumas, or problems when young.) What role in life do gay/lesbian bring in life? I mean with Opposite sex you create life ,but homosexuals has nothing. I don't accept homosexuality although i really don't mind anyone being it.

Answer 1

"usually homosexual people come from divorced parents, traumas, or problems when young."

Incorrect. There is no correlation between divorce, trauma or problems when young and homosexuality.



"Once again you were "born this way" because you were little and by your surroundings made you lead yourself that way."

I'm gay and I'm assuming you are not - therefore I believe I have more knowledge in this area. There may be something in what you're saying however there was absolutely nothing different about my childhood than my brother's and my friend's and my relatives and they're all straight but I'm gay.



"I don't accept homosexuality although i really don't mind anyone being it."

Ok so do you accept it or not? It's cool that you don't mind people being gay so why do you feel the need to include that you don't accept it....your statements here contradict eachother.

Answer 2

Okay, do NOT try to tell me that I chose to be gay. I didn't... -_- And that last part, "During the years pass you never realize it because when your a child you don't know what gay really is.", No child knows the terms "Gay, Straight, Bi, Trans", however that has nothing to do with what that child feels. I didn't know I was "Gay" becuase I didn't know the definitions of Sexual Orientation, but I knew I liked other boys. I always had crushes on guys and never girls. And yes children can have crushes. And that theory of "usually homosexual people come from divorced parents, traumas, or problems when young" can be tossed in the garbage right now. Cuz there are ALOT of homosexual people who come from loving families. Of course there are some gay/bi people who come from families with problems or have problems of their own, but there's straight people like that too! Sexual Orientation has NOTHING to do with how you were treated or how your family was growing up. If you ask me, you're disturbed and corrupt to even suggest that Homosexuality is a choice. Why would anyone CHOOSE to be attracted to the same sex? Anyway, it would make no sense. You can't control what you like. You can't control who you like or how you feel. Homosexuality is a part of nature. It occurs in ALL species of animals. So do NOT try to tell me it's not normal or natural. Homosexuality is just as natural as heterosexuality. Some people are gay, get over it!

Answer 3

Let me answer your question with a question:



If homosexuality was a choice, why would these people choose to be part of a discriminated minority with unfair treatment from law, society and religion? Would someone willingly choose to be that?



Of course not. Your sources are wrong by the way. My surroundings, I was raised in a militarized family, my dad is a Lieutenant and the entire male generation in my family have fought in wars. I hate pink, I like to work alone, I'm 'manly', but I'm gay. Stick any other person, like you for example. in my situation then they could be straight depending on who they are.

My boyfriend is different. He was raised in the 'gay way'. He does ballet, he's a bit of a gender bender, looks pretty and was raised not as strict as I was. He is also gay. However there is no saying that someone else in his position could turn out straight.



Sexuality isn't like peer pressure or watching your parents do something and then mimicking it. Like how if a kid was raised by a father who drank everyday, they may turn out to be like that because it's all they ever know (which is the more likely case) but there is still a chance where they won't. That's choice, environment is generally choice, just at times harder to make because it requires more thought. Sexuality is just 'what comes with the deal', it's about the same as the eye colour you have and the way you look - it's just how you are.

Answer 4

Okay. Take whatever sources that told you that "homosexual people come from divorced parents, traumas, or problems when young," chuck them out the window, and never take a word they say seriously again. That is just plain factually inaccurate.



Homosexuality is NOT a choice. Neither is bisexuality, which is a separate issue altogether. I can see that you are trapped in a mentality that tells you that reproduction is the highest purpose of a human life, and that makes me feel bad for you. There is more that a human being can offer than either conceiving or spitting out another human being. When you grow up you'll understand that.

Answer 5

Your theory is flawed. Two people growing up in the same environment don't necessarily have the same sexual orientation. But identical twins have a higher incidents of both having the same orientation than fraternal twins and other siblings.



As people grow up, there are things they learn about themselves. They learn which hand they should write with, depending on the hand-dominance present from birth. And they learn whether they are naturally attracted to the opposite sex, the same sex, or both. The only choice any of us has is whether to act on the natural attraction, or to hide it and attempt to live a lie to make homophobic people comfortable/happy.



You don't see what purpose homosexuality fulfills because you have never looked for it. While the answer is harder to see in humans, because our own "better way" often interferes with nature, it is easily seen in the rest of nature. Almost every species that reproduces by sexual means has individuals that are exclusively homosexual, and usually individuals who are bisexual. Same-sex pairs in nature exhibit the same behavior as opposite-sex pairs: pair bonding, affection, sexual activity, etc. Among species that mate for life, same-sex pairs are common, and will often adopt orphaned young.



Homosexuality is nature's built-in way of preventing overpopulation. When a steady percentage of a species does not reproduce by nature, there is far less chance of running out of resource due to excessive numbers. Further, the willingness of same-sex pairs to adopt orphaned young helps to preserve the species.



All of this is well-documented and published. And it carries far more weight than the ignorant claims of some that any homosexuality among animals is about dominance or lack of the opposite sex. The evidence simply cannot support such claims.



So homosexuality is a normal variant of human sexuality, and serves important functions in a community, if it is allowed to.

Answer 6

There is minimal empirical evidence on the subject. Twins studies and evaluations of the physiology of the brains of self-identified male homosexuals both lend support to the "hard-wired" hypothesis: that sexual orientation is determined before birth and is never a choice. There is no contradicting empirical evidence.



The fact that "all" of the evidence supports the "hard-wired" hypothesis and none of it supports the "choice" hypothesis is not of itself conclusive. That is because there is very little empirical evidence at all. "The scientific debate is over" only applies to global warming when Al Gore talks about it. For everything else from Newtonian physics through the speed of light to the "hard-wired"/choice aspect of homosexuality, the scientific debate is alive and well.

Answer 7

Why would anyone choose to be a minority?



Babies do not feel romantic nor sexual love.

There are plenty of gay people who did not experience such traumas. Most people know they are gay since childhood, without having any prior knowledge on anything LGBT related.

Answer 8

No, not everyone is born bisexual.

Some people are born with there sexuality(gay,straight, bi, les) just like they're born with there gender, its never a choice.

Answer 9

Nice you have a theory, shame i think its crap.



I'll stick with the opinions of people who have degrees and PHd's in the field versus you.

Answer 10

Well I didn't wake up one day and decide to like boys and girls



I choose to do things with the same/opposite sex.

I don't choose to be attracted to them.

Answer 11

JERRY!!JERRY!!JERRY!!

FIGHT!! Kick some azz!!



oh yeah,sorry.

I'm a lesbian and I have two parents never married so never divorced. I never had problems when young or tramas. I'm just a lesbian because I like(seual and emotional )girls.

Answer 12

SIMPLE- No it is not a choice, your mind works that way.

Answer 13

nope its mental problems