Sex before marriage, a catholic point of view?

Question

Been pondering this for some time, now the catholic church says that you should not have sex before marriage but this is the 21st century.

How the heck are people supposed to get on in life if you cant have sex before marriage

(and let me just say im not the type of girl to bring a new bloke home every week)

What im saying is that guys of today (well the majority) would run like a mile if i mentioned no sex before marriage.

I believe you should only have sex if your in a committed loving relationship anyway.

So if you have sex and your not marriaged, you go to hell then.

Now i dont remember jesus christ saying anything about this issue during his ministry on earth?

Would the holy catholic church condemn the use of the contraceptive pill then?

Answer 1

1. The Catholic Church has always taught that sex outside of marriage is a sin. It's not something new.



2. It doesn't matter if it's the 21st Century or the 1st Century - a sin is a sin.



3. Plenty of people get on quite will without having sex before marriage. You need food and water and warmth and rest, but you don't need sex to live. Sex is entirely optional.



4. Yes, a majority of guys will run a mile if you say no sex before marriage. That happened to me, too. And you know what? I finally realized that a guy who demands sexual performance from me in order to determine whether or not I'm worth his time is a CREEP. Those fellows were not worth MY time. I held out and married a man who was firmly committed to saving sex for marriage. We're very happily married now.



5. How do you know a relationship is "committed" unless you have publicly made the commitment? I mean, if a guy isn't willing to stand in front of his family and friends (and God) and say that he wants to be with you forever, he's not very committed, is he? And if he IS willing to do that, he's willing to marry you, so he should.



6. Jesus said a lot more than what's in the Bible (the Bible even says so in the very last verse of the Gospel of John), so you don't know that He didn't address this topic directly. It's a good guess that He did, though, since the Church He formed has always taught that all forms of sex outside of marriage are sinful.



7. A person only goes to hell if they don't feel sorry for their sins and the sins are very serious.



8. Yes, the Church condemns the contraception pill and all other forms of artificial contraception, because they interfere with one of the two key purposes for sex. The two are bonding between the couple and procreation.



If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask.

Answer 2

Catholic Sex Before Marriage

Answer 3

RE:

Sex before marriage, a catholic point of view?

Been pondering this for some time, now the catholic church says that you should not have sex before marriage but this is the 21st century.



How the heck are people supposed to get on in life if you cant have sex before marriage



(and let me just say im not the type of girl to bring a new bloke...

Answer 4

Hi :) okay, the Catholic Church believes that sex before marriage is wrong. And that the only reason to have sex is to procreate and they are also against birth control and condoms and any form of protection that is man made. It is the 21st century, and it does sometimes seem like an ancient notion that is ridiculous nowadays. But if you do believe in the value of sex and saving yourself for someone that you want to spend forever with then you have to remember that there are guys out there who are doing the same thing and also waiting for there bride. But no one is forcing religion down your throat :) you can do whatever you'd like, but remember to use protection if you do decide not to wait. Good luck! :) have fun!

Answer 5

I am a Catholic and i believe that you should to have sex before marriage because you are going to be with that person hopefully for the rest of your life. Now i don't mean to sound selfish but you don't want to be sleeping with someone that cant make you happy. I go to church twice a week and pray before every meal and night. I strongly believe in my faith and i would never do anything against it unless i believed that it was the correct thing to do.



All the best in your relationship!

Answer 6

The catholic church is against pre-marital sex and contraception of any kind. But they do it all the time. You won't go to hell. Just be smart about it and use contraception. Most every ancient religious law regarding sex and marriage is skewed to the man's side anyway which was how things were back then and not fair to women.

Answer 7

The Catholic Church is against ANY form of contraception. Condoms, birth control, hysterectomies that are not for a medical purpose.



Catholics believe that the ONLY purpose of sex is for a married couple to procreate and start a family. They do not think that it is okay outside of marriage, no matter what modern society says.

Answer 8

Hi Sarah, you need to learn 'Why' the Church holds the teaching that it does- it's not a rule for no good reason, or to prevent people from enjoying life.



Getting on with a person involves more than sex. If a person can please you sexually, it can blind you to other parts of their personality that will not be able to make you happy- this happens a lot. The passion can make us blind to otherwise defects.

Sex is sacred and should remain open to life- I don't want to sound gay about it but people don't view sex in its true light. It is giving yourself totally to another.

Sex outside of marriage can lead to hell but it's not guaranteed: there is no justification. Jesus di speak against it and He gave His Church authority to teach in His name.

The Church condemns contraception because it is against the conception of life.

Answer 9

Our Palio Jesus does mention it I think, fornication. I'm Catholic and I whole heartledly agree with you.



For reference, the Catholic Church approves of one method of contraception, "Family Planning," basically timing sex so it is impossible to conceive.



No. You will not necessarily, according to Catholic beliefs, go to hell for pre-marital sex, if you ask God's forgiveness with your whole heart and truly love God.



Besides, no human can judge you, that is up to God, and believe it or not, there are such things as liberal, new thinking Catholics, who preach messages that are inspirational and who believe in forward thinking. A priest near me is very much like this.

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Answer 11

The catholic church has alot of things wrong and has changed alot of things. In gods mind if you feel you will be with this person for a long time, and feel as if you are in someway bonded with them then its a marriage in your heart and a certification is not what god was looking for he can care less.

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Answer 13

the catholic church needs updating,

i have been with my BF for 6 and a half years. we obviously have sex. we aren't married because its too expensive. i have the implant. its not that im killing the egg, im just not releasing one so there fore its still alive and not murder.

from what i know Catholics dont worship (or whatever it is) Jesus, their religion is based around the virgin mary.



Personally, there is no god, there is no point in religion and there is nothing after death apart from a 6ft deep hole.



live life the way you want to, you only get one shot why waste it?



And yes my family was religious (Christians)

Answer 14

it's like K said otherwise all the religion has this point in common I think it's a reflection of the times in which their books were written. I don't think that believing in God has to do with these things tbh

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Answer 16

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