omg! major help!! :(?

Question

i broke up with my b/f
we were 2gther for 1 year and 2 months
we both decided on it because ti was best for the time being,it was nto a good situation so. today is 5 days of being broken up but thing is we have still have major feelings for one another
but like.he said u know break ups are not easy, well i tried to get back with him and he kept saying no after no, and well yesterday, we had a long talk online and he has said he has been feeling all weird confused, and feels that he misses me major. and wants 2 get back with me (maybe) we are going to talk and see what happens today after school, i am going to stop and visit his school but im not sure what to do. because also yesterday, before we had teh talk which was late at niight i had talked 2 a friend and well, it led ot me sucking his, d*ck, and i feel soo horrible because i am not sure if i shoudl tell him *my ex* because what if we do get back together,
or what if he does not want to be with me. i know i shouldnt have.. :(

Answer 1

Well someone is being a nightmare of selfishness. First of all, you would not go suck some guys dick randomly after having some major talk with your ex-bf if you really still had "major feelings" for him. That shows a complete lack of respect for your ex. Learn to keep your mouth shut, and off of random *****, and you won't have this problem. Completely avoidable.

Answer 2

Obviously you are hurting, confused, now feeling guilty on top of it all. I would suggest that you go ahead with the talk after school today, but if you want a future with the guy, you need to come clean. You can simply tell him that since you two were no longer an item and you were lonely, sad and confused, you were vulnerable to attentions from another guy and ended up being intimate with him. You don't have to go into details....if your ex gets upset over it and ends the "talk", you aren't any worse off than you were before, and you at least have the consolation that you were honest. If you don't tell your ex, you will always run the risk of him finding out from someone else, the guilt you feel will come between you eventually anyway, and you will never have a trusting relationship with him. You actually have not "cheated" on your ex because that's what he was....your "ex". So he doesn't really have any right to be angry over it, however, men/boys being what they are, he may not see it that way. Still it is better to get it out in the open. If he's any kind of a man, he will respect you for your honesty.



Good luck.

Answer 3

Ok, Okay breathe!! Relax a second here.



First off you have to realize that you are young and a bit emotional over everything and the emotions you are having will hamper making logical intelligent decisions. DON"T LET IT! Take time to make carefully thought out decisions considering all involved parties.



Tackle this a little at a time...first the fact that you were intimate with someone is of no consideration at this time. You were not part of a couple and it has nothing to do with this relationship.



Second, you have both felt that things were not right and you both have at one point wanted to end things - that speaks volumes. The thing is that once things are ended you natural feel a sense of loss and you tend to miss the good things about the relationship and downplay the bad things.



What you want to do is think about how you really feel. Was it wiser to end things? The things that were problems - have they been resolved? If not why even consider reconciliation? It will be futile and you would both end up even more hurt than you are now.



I think what is needed is a few days rest from one another and then you will have a clearer head and make better decisions.

Answer 4

If you do get back together with your ex, there's no need to tell him about the incident with the friend.



You were broken up, for one thing. That means you're free to do whatever with whomever you choose. Even if your ex "wanted" to get back together, you still hadn't at that point.



Secondly, the incident with your friend occurred while you were in a highly vulnerable emotional state. In such a state one's actions are not always the most rational or prudent.



The only question you really need to concern yourself with is, does the friend have a big mouth? If he does and you feel he won't keep the incident private, then maybe you should consider telling your ex.



But otherwise, cut yourself some slack, let it go and forget about it.

Answer 5

What you did with the straight guy is perfectly normal and has no bearing on what you feel for your boyfriend. I don't believe in "cheating." I don't think young people should consider monogamous relationships. Your sex life is too important a part of your life to limit yourself to one person at your age. When you are older and more mature, then it is time to consider whether a one-on-one relationship is right for you.

Answer 6

i know its hard butget out and have fun. go meet new people and just be ur self. don't let this bring u down. there r plenty of fish in the sea, u'll find a good catch one day, just don't rush into it. good luck.

Answer 7

well i think u shouldnt tell him it would just screw things between u guys and ull be love broken i guess because i never had love lost or have dated anyone