I think I'm becoming a cross-dresser! Help!?!?

Question

I'm a teen boy (smart, Christian) and I find a strange enjoyment in wearing clothes usually associated with the female gender. The other day I was researching my strange problem, and found that this is how most cross-dressers came to be known as just that - cross-dressers.

My emotions were mixed: denial, depression, and then simply wondering how
someone with such a high IQ, such a powerful mind could have such a "disorder". I will tell you that I am perfectly straight (have a girlfriend). This, however, does not help me, as 85 to 90%of all cross-dressers are sraight, and 65%of them have girlfriends/wives.

Well,what I need is to know what to do: should I fight the urge, and deny ever having it? Or should I take the more serene route, and accept it as my personality? Should I tell someone or keep it bottled up, safe and secure? I would NOT enjoy telling my parents about this. Should I tell my girlfriend about it and hope she can help? (I have a one- in-four chance of her accepting me as a cross-dresser after all as girls often understand this problem.)

Please hear my plea, I only want to live a good life. I ask you please not to post rude things about my unusuallness, as I know at least one person will do anyways. I understand I am nowhere near the only person who knows what it's like, and all help is greatly appreciated in this time when I risk looking demented and/or perverted in front of society.

Answer 1

people in the lgbt community are not demented or perverted



As you might be part of that community, and because you are so smart, you shouldnt bag the community youre seeking help from.

Answer 2

Not to offend, but having a high IQ (congrats o_O) or being Christian doesn't exclude you from being human. :) Cross dressing, IMO, is not a "disorder". It's just a facet of human sexuality that while not normal, is in no way abnormal.

What to do about it is YOUR decision. Tell whomever you're comfortable telling (parents rarely need ALL details of our sex lives). If you're close to your girlfriend and love her, I'd tell her. I really don't see a need for you to exhibit yourself to society unless you want to. It's something to do in private (or in small social groups :D), so don't fret and worry what the mailman will think about you wearing lacy thongs or corsets when you're at home.

Take your time with this discovery of yourself, not many people here come immediately to terms with our differences. If you want to embrace it, which will help in the long run, DO SO. If you want to try to ignore it, try that. Only you can ultimately decide what's right for you.

Good luck. :)

Answer 3

I normal yet I cross dressed in private, wigs make up clothes lingire everything. Could not go out in public,you know I almost got caught or my wardobe get found where I hid it, naturally denied I no Idea where stuff came from. Many times I throw away every thing. Time would pass and I begin collecting womens attire again. My wife acussed me having affair she sensed something said real hate full things to me.I widow older am seeking help cause I am caring thought full loving, Want to change be happy myself ,A woman they works with gender refer me to several in my area. I'm not gay, if anything Bi like both sexes.I sat down wrote priortys down still prefer females, they good friends. I like some small breasts and am slim so I fit womens stuff well. Well thats just me would say it better to get help tell folks so you not feel guilty like you doing wrong. I christian God fearing great family, Now I want to love me first so, I hope I able to tell close realtives.

Answer 4

It's ok to crossdress, even as a Christian. There are many good, intelligent, and successful people that crossdress, so there is no need to be bogged down by denial or depression.



It's very unlikely that your parents would be understanding or accepting, so I don't think you need to tell them.



You should be honest about it with anyone you are seriously dating. Your girlfriend may not accept it, but it's far better to find out now and go your separate ways than to get involved with someone who doesn't accept this.

Answer 5

I know a boy who likes to dress in woman's clothing. He liked it, very much. But he didn't wear them in public or such. I don't think there's a problem with enjoying dressing in the opposite gender's clothing. What I would consider cross-dressing is constantly wearing it- and out in public. Putting on makeup, really trying to look like a girl. With real thought out effort.

Answer 6

You're going to call this a "disorder". And you're a Christian.



Well, come to terms with yourself. GOD still loves you after you are seen as demented and perverted, right? Isn't that what CHRISTIANITY says? God loves the gays too.



You stuff that side of your self down you're suppressing a facet of you that deserves to shine. Do you think you're perfect? **** no. You wanna live a good life? Look in the mirror. You see that teen in front of you, wearing the furry coat and the miniskirt? That's you. Deal with it. Life's a *****, and we've all got to deal with that.



Just look at yourself and accept it. It's how GOD made you.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, there are those in society who will judge you for who you are. There is nothing wrong with cross dressing. It is not a 'perversion', and it is perfectly normal.



Be who you are comfortable being. Just be aware that you may face hardship from others somewhere down the line. Do not think of yourself as having a disorder either. Cross dressing is harmless. Disorders are not.

Answer 8

Honey, that's large that you dressing up turns HIM on. notwithstanding it doesn't sound like he needs to. He likely "denies" it because HE does no longer favor to. So -- basic answer? you could't. so that you'll attempt to make him commence crossdressing is the same as HIM attempting to make you supply up. go away him on my own. close doesn't recommend you have to be similar.

Answer 9

Just cross dress and be happy, you can keep it private, to tell is your choice!

Answer 10

not at all be brave and tell your girl about that and do what you like cuz we are equals men and women and ido the same at home