For Mormons : Do this missionary possibly fall in love with his former companion?

Question

Hai!

I'm an investigator of the LDS church. I'm bisexual guy but has GF - if that matters...:D - I've been investigating for quite a while and have posted few LDS-related questions before.

Anyway, it's off-topic but i just wonder because, i was taught by few pairs of missionaries. The last pair was already split up by their MP (mission president) a couple weeks ago. And as usual, one missionary is transferred away from my area and the "other half" is staying for another 6 weeks (i think..)

Then later on, i found out that the missionary who is staying in my area, has experienced a 'severe frustration' which apparently due to the new situation where his former companion has left. I heard that he has always woken up in terrible mood, bad feeling and super-confused, sad, depressed since his former companion has left ( surely it has been a horrible weeks for him) He indeed has seemed kinda bit 'distracted' when he was teaching me in the past few weeks and when i asked him "what's up?"..he was just smiling!

So,is it possible that he might be falling in love with former companion - without even realising! - he does seem pretty gay - you know..by his looks and gesture but i wouldn't know though - but if he was, he must be in deep-denial, considering he is a 'devout' mormon and from utah :D. Cause, straight guy wouldn't bring his feeling with another guy to this extent - other missionaries have never 'experienced' frustration when their companion is transferred.

Thx!

Answer 1

There are many reasons for a missionary to feel frustrated or depressed. They work through it and carry on most of the time. If the missionary continues to have personal problems that impede his work, then he will talk to the mission president and get counselling to work it out.

When I was in Brazil, I had a particularly bad set of companions that made my life pretty miserable. I found it hard to work with them. After a very bad evaluation session one evening, I was at a loss as to what to do next. The next morning, an assistant to the president showed up very early and gave transfer orders to the two most notorious missionaries in my district. After that, I was able to work with my new companion and we did just fine. Later, I had some personal problems that hindered me for a while. The president worked with me and I was able to move on.

My point is that you cannot read facts into evidence that do not in reality exist. You have already told him that you noticed he was troubled. Let it go at that and trust that he will work out his difficulties. I seriously doubt that it has anything to do with romantic feelings for a former companion. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Answer 2

I think that you're taking your personal feelings and trying to put another's struggles into your own mind and then working backwards to form a conclusion that might not be accurate.



I'm straight, and as far as I know all of my mission companions were straight, and I REALLY missed some of them after they were gone!



To put it more bluntly, I really missed the cooperation and in a spiritual and completely appropriate manner, I missed the love that former companions had with me and with the missionary work.



I had 11 missionary companions, 3 of which were guys who made it fun and easy to be on a mission with, 4 of which were incredibly taxing on me.



So missing a former companion might not be anything more than missing the way they worked together and communicated together. It's so hard at 19 to be far away from home, speaking a new language (for many), away from comforts of home, working hard, and being berated by others along the way.



Yes, there is also a lot of love in missions, but don't confuse that with romance.

Answer 3

I believe that it is normal for teaching companions to get new teaching companions. I can't know what the problem is but I know that teaching companions can get quite close -- like brothers, not like lovers.



Only God knows what's going on with this Elder that has been teaching you.



Here is a link to the LDS Church's official position on homosexuality:



"Homosexuality"

https://www.lds.org/topics/homosexuality?lang=eng



"Law of Chastity"

https://www.lds.org/topics/chastity?lang=eng

Answer 4

companions change all the time.



some people simply don't do change well.

Answer 5

No boys are together on mission and girls go together