What can be done about a gay man who makes unwanted advances on a straight man?

Question

He already knows the straight man does not like the gay man's behavior!

Answer 1

Spoken from the vantage point of a gay man (I'm sure this is going to get me several "thumbs down" from the homophobic teenage trolls who are home from school for the summer and have nothing better to do than to get on message boards and make "fag bashing" comments):



If this is happening at work, let the gay man know that your workplace has policies against sexual harassment, including unwanted sexual advances and creating a hostile work environment. If his behavior doesn't stop immediately, go to HR and file a complaint.



He will be out of a job so quickly it will make his head spin. NO company wants to be on the receiving end of a sexual harassment lawsuit.



If it's not at work — try confronting the man directly, preferably with a group of people with you, so you have several witnesses. For him, the humiliation of something like this happening will be compounded by having several witnesses present) and confront him on his behavior, that it will stop IMMEDIATELY, and what the consequences will be if the behavior doesn't stop (protective order, etc.).



And whatever threats you make if the behavior doesn't stop, IMMEDIATELY — *DO THEM*. Do not make any threats you do not intend to carry out. (Obviously, you're not going to hit him, because he can turn around and have you charged with assault and battery.)

Answer 2

Avoid pleasantries and explain it in no uncertain terms that it must stop immediately. Who's perception are we taking this from though- assume the str8- then this is much less intensive than resorting to violence.



Perhaps a very clear level headed conversation may result in the gay man not intending to make advances and maybe he is more camp and a compromise could be reached.



IF that doesn't work and you are in an employment situation or school suggest that if it doesn't stop you will complain of sexual harassment and if that isn't the case- then do what everyone else suggested...

Answer 3

If he knows that the advances are unwelcome, he is out of line. If it's a work situation, let him know that it is harassment and will be reported as such. If it is not a work or school situation, then the straight guy should just avoid him, like he would anyone else who engaged in behavior that made him uncomfortable.

Answer 4

First I want to say, try and understand him. He has a two-fold soul. He can't help it he likes you.



Now that being said, YES, tell him the truth, your not gay, and are not interested. If he persists do what you have to do in the best, good, nice, way you can for him to get the point, I mean, liking you is one thing, but bothering you because he thinks he likes you is not right.

Answer 5

i think of of there's a difference between sexual strategies and females persons basically ensue to be there and sexual strategies for some one. maximum adult adult males have fairly severe intercourse drives and there are not from now on any sexual strategies suitable. There are basically sexual strategies and a individual they like could be on the receiving end. yet attachment? this is yet yet another undertaking, thoroughly. adult adult males experience sexual or horny. pleasing woman walks with the help of. twist of fate, now no longer something extra suitable. The sexual strategies are not from now on suitable to the female, they are suitable to the guy. thoroughly.

Answer 6

If he doesn't understand that the straight guy will never "get down" with the straight man, then he should try another approach than talking. Like punch him or something. He'll get scared and won't ever arouse him or whatever he did.

Answer 7

if its at work report him for sexual harassment and get him fired. If its in private life wait until he touches you and then report him for an incdecent assault and get him jailed. people who won't take no for an answer eserve whatever they get no matter what their orientation is.

Answer 8

It is OK to hit the gay man.a woman would do the same to a man that keeps herassing her. we as a socity are getting a little to confortable with the gays. if you don't keep them in place then they will take over the place they all ready stole the rainbo from the world, isn't that enuff

Answer 9

Tell the gay guy that if he doesn't stop, he'll soon be eating a knuckle sandwich.