First time sex with a prostitute?

Question

Before you start judging me, let me explain my situation.. I'm a 21 year old guy and I'm still a virgin. I always said to myself that I didn't have a girlfriend because I didn't want one, but now that's no longer the case. All my life I've been a loner, even when I was kid.. I only have one real friend, his name is Luke. Me and Luke are close friends because we're very much alike, he also lacks social skills. And until not long ago he was a virgin too.. A few weeks ago Luke told me he'd finally gotten laid, I asked him how it happened and he told me very little about it, he said he just met this girl in a bar and then went back to her place.. For the first time in a long while, I started to feel inadequate, now I felt I was missing out on the experience.. So I started to consider hiring a prostitute just to get it over with.. I figure if I can get rid of this mental block of me being a virgin, I'll gain some confidence.

But I felt really nervous, I needed to tell someone about it. I know my parents would go ballistic if I told them, So I confessed to Luke that I was considering hiring an escort.. At this point Luke just started laughing.. He told me the truth, HE lost his virginity to a hooker.. He felt ashamed about it, he thought I'd ridicule him for it, and that's why he never told me.

Next week's my birthday, and today Luke comes and tells me he's giving me my present a little early.. My gift is 1 hour with a prostitute.. I'm supposed to go to her place tomorrow. He's given me the money to pay her with and he's made all the necessary arrangements. All I have to do is show up.

I want to go, but I'm still really nervous.. I don't know what to say to her. I tried asking Luke about his experience but he can't remember that much about it because he was really drunk. I don't drink, so I'll have to do this thing sober.. So I have a few questions.

1. Should I tell her I'm a virgin?
2. What do I say upon meeting her? I'll feel really awkward.
3. What can I do to settle my nerves? (I don't want to drink or take drugs).

PS. Before you ask. Prostitution is legal here (England).

Answer 1

So how come this question isn't being tagged as coming from England? I smell a rat.

Answer 2

1. Tell her anything you like. You're paying for services which includes listening to anything inane you'd care to share.

2. Say "Hello. Here I am, your virgin appointment."

3. Yoga, meditate, work out, a long hot bath. What do you usually do?



My opinion:

Your virginity is nothing to get rid of. I can guarantee your future gf will feel that you should have waited. No girl is ever happy that you didn't wait because you thought giving a prostitute your virginity was a good idea. Good luck with that conversation.

Answer 3

A 21 years old virgin? Lol, that's cute.



Legal doesn't mean correct. And I'd rather lose my virginity with a woman who loved me than with someone I had to pay.



Say nothing to her. She's not interested in your words, your feelings or even your body. Only money matters to this soulless creature that you're going to use to defile yourself.



About question three, well, telling you to stop being so pathetic is a lost cause by now. Just do what you want. Just ruin your life if that's what you want.



You're an adult now. You don't even believe in God, so nobody is going to stop you.



Probably that's the only way you'll ever understand how overrated is sex anyway, how empty it feels when it lacks its main ingredient. I'm not telling you what it is because you're never going to understand.

Answer 4

First of all prostitution is NOT legal here in England.

You dont have to pay to have sex. Go out more often and you will find somebody to have sex with. But if you choose to pay for sex then the only thing you have to ask her is how much. She 'll do the rest.

Answer 5

Well you shouldn't have asked this question so late. Just jump in and dont be a sissy about it because that's beyond pathetic. You're already a 21 year old virgin in England (I mention that because many of the girls there in their youth years are extremely loose). Maybe if you just took a risk by walking up to a girl in a place and said something to her you'd have a relationship. Seriously. Life's too short not to take risks. I'm 16 and I've dated 26 girls. Sure only 3 of them were worth my time but now I've learned! I risk my life almost every chance I get doing extreme sports (plz don't attempt, I'm in shape and experienced). Look. I'd like to help you. I really would. Just message me about it. Life is best lived with experiences. Please I very much insist. I apologize for the roughness at first but it just frustrates me when a fellow man doesn't getnto there.

Answer 6

Just tell her this your first time and you're nervous. If she's a good escort she will understand. Have fun.

Answer 7

I am gay too. my dad paid for prostitute for me when I was 25, go with the flow try it, Like me you will be gay until the day you die single, married to a woman or man no matter we cant change what's inside us