Question:
Is it possible for a straight woman to enjoy oral sex from another woman and clam not to be gay or Bi?
Needtoknow
2013-04-20 09:53:16 UTC
This may sound weird, but my girlfriend and I had a long conversation one night. She decided to be honest with me... I asked her have she ever been with another woman sexually. She told me yes , but only doing a threesome (GGM) Might I add, I've known my girlfriend ever since she was 15 and I was 16. We've been friends for 19 years and we have a little boy together. I asked her several questions from being curious... she told me she's not into women, she doesn't fantasize about women, she is not turned on by women and she's not gay or Bi. Of curse I told her I was confused lol. She said it's strictly sexual and nothing else. She told me the only time she's ever been with women was doing three threesomes she's had in the past and another time with a former co worker and all she did to her was let her co worker perform oral on her, but she never returned the favor. Shortly after the encounter with her coworker, she said her co worker asked her to join her and her husband for a threesome and she went along with it. She told me she was really nervous the first time. After that experience with the married couple ,she said she had one more threesome with them and that was it. My girlfriend mentioned to me she has kissed the women doing her threesome encounters and enjoyed it. I feel she's bi sexual,.. I even asked her would she ever consider having a threesome with me. She said she wasn't sure, she's never had a threesome with someone she loves or have feelings for. She mentioned she wouldn't mind and if the two of us decided to have one it would definitely have to be before we get married. My girlfriend made it clear if we had a threesome, there would have to be some rules involved such as, no kissing ,or no missionary positions. She said I couldn't be in any positions that includes me and the other woman being face to face. She sounded as if she really wasn't sure about it, but at the same time wanted it. She said she really want me to experience a threesome and enjoy it. I asked her a trick question just to see how she would respond. I asked her if we had a threesome and the other woman and her started off kissing and touching each other and she noticed I felt uncomfortable, walked out the room and didn't return, what would she do... would she continue with the woman, or stop once she noticed I left out the room? She said she would stop and go after me to see what was wrong, it wouldn't be any reason for her to continue with out me because the threesome would be for me to enjoy and if I didn't want to go along with it she would feel disappointed and it was a waste of time for the two of us. She told me she would enjoy it, if she noticed I was enjoying it. She said she wouldn't mind watching another woman give me oral, or watch me perform doggy style on another woman sexually. She said the visual probably turn her on. Now after hearing that of course it made me feel a little better knowing she would stop and not continue with the other woman, but I'm not sure if she was just telling me what she thought I wanted to hear. I told her if she was Bi, I would still love her no matter what and again she told me plenty of times she's not gay or Bi. I need some answers. I'm really trying to understand with out being judgmental.
Sixteen answers:
Super Star
2013-04-20 10:12:32 UTC
sexual intercourse can be complicated. Im a girl, I never did anything with another girl, but I do think about it often and it does turn me on. But, saying i'm gay or bi? No, I don't see my self be in a relation with a girl. It's hard to speak for someone else.. but your girlfriend seems more like bi-curious.

Search it on internet if you want.. Bi-curious is more like a sexual attraction for the same sexe.. but only on a sexual level.. she probably wouldn't want something serious with another women, like a relationship, but it's turn her on to try something new, different with someone of the same sex (on sexual terms). Woman are very pretty, and it's easy for another woman to be turned on by one.

If she never had any relationship with another woman, something more serious, and if she wouldn't see herself in a relationship with a woman, it's probly just something sexual, like bi-curious, if not she might denied it too, it's possible that she doesn't accept-it herself. but its look more like its just bi-curiousity
?
2016-07-26 11:38:11 UTC
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Bille
2015-04-05 07:23:47 UTC
To the person who started this thread, um.... if your girlfriend explained to you VERY clearly that she's not attracted, turned on, or interested in women, then what the hell does that tell you? It should be obvious then! BUT, at the same time if she's enjoying the sex with other women, then that could be a bit..... confusing. So she might be confused or she might not be. However it would be more likely that she's bisexual rather than calling her a "closeted" gay woman, because she's with you and has been with other men. So she's not bi. And believe it or not, but there are TONS of men who fit the category of "bi-curious" like how Super Star explained.
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2015-08-17 01:04:07 UTC
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Is it possible for a straight woman to enjoy oral sex from another woman and clam not to be gay or Bi?

This may sound weird, but my girlfriend and I had a long conversation one night. She decided to be honest with me... I asked her have she ever been with another woman sexually. She told me yes , but only doing a threesome (GGM) Might I add, I've known my girlfriend ever since she was 15 and I...
?
2013-04-20 13:19:40 UTC
It's absolutely possible to enjoy sex without being attracted to one's partner(s). That's how so many gay people don't discover they're gay until much later in life. Many gay people have straight relationships (including sex) before they realize they're gay. They often enjoy these relationships and like the sex. It just tends not to produce fireworks. They're never so into it they forget their own names. So it can definitely go the other way too. Your girlfriend could have enjoyed sex with a woman immensely, but if she's straight then she's straight.
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2016-01-29 01:07:08 UTC
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Curtis B
2013-04-20 10:07:54 UTC
I don't think you have to be gay or bi to enjoy it. An orgasm is an involuntary reaction, kind of. You stimulate the right things for long enough, stuff starts to happen. It's actually easier for the woman, because the "little man in the boat" is just always there, whereas men are more visually oriented ad have to maintain an erection in order for the nerve endings to be able to be stimulated, so they have to be at least a little interested in the other person.
Ash
2015-04-05 07:32:23 UTC
Oops! I had to sign on my other account since this site wouldn't let me comment again, but I'm also Bille, and I accidentally said that if she's been with you or other men then she's not bi, but what I meant to say, is that she's not GAY.
anonymous
2013-04-20 10:12:56 UTC
I think she's in denial. It could be a little confusing. I would be confused if it was me in that situation. I don't think she wants you to know that she's bi or lesbian. Some people just like to have oral done on them. Doesn't matter the gender. Or they don't really think to much about it. At less she was honest with you. Try the threesome. See if you like it. Or think about it first.
robert43041
2013-04-20 10:11:44 UTC
A one-time thing is a one-time thing. Other than that I say she's at least a bit more than just bi-curious indeed.
?
2013-04-20 10:04:50 UTC
No, she can be straight even though she preformed in a threesome. Think of porn stars, some say they are straight but yet during orgies or such they hook up with the same sex. If she comes out as bisexual, well then she is bi, if not, then she is straight.
Hemligt
2013-04-20 10:54:40 UTC
Yes
POPPI
2017-04-02 18:22:41 UTC
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anonymous
2017-02-15 23:25:02 UTC
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anonymous
2013-04-20 09:53:50 UTC
Yes. Because women are beautiful.
anonymous
2013-04-20 10:02:30 UTC
well if she keep it up . then she is at least bi . to me


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