Question:
Is one homosexual by choice or not? And can you explain why?
2012-08-20 09:04:43 UTC
I will admit, I'm straight, but I know homosexuals aren't any different from any other human being and deserve equal rights. I just want to understand in as much detail as humanly possible how/why someone becomes/is homosexual. I'm not looking for BS answers. I'm looking for honest, well compiled, and intelligible answers from people who've taken the time to introspect and search for the answer within themselves.

I thank you all in advance.
Ten answers:
2012-08-20 09:37:06 UTC
I am gay and think your question is interesting and a valid one. I knew that I was gay at a very early age. I have never been sexually attracted to women, and I was sure about that even as a child. No one can really say why people end up gay but my theory is that I was born this way and it feels very natural to me. I came from a good home so I was not traumatized in any way as a child, I had loving and supportive parents who took very good care of me. It is a hard question to answer even though I am gay, I don't know the real reason why. I can only assume that I was this way from birth. I love females just not sexually. I hope that this helped you understand a little more, sorry I couldn't explain in more detail. It is a difficult subject to explain. Thanks for being open minded enough to ask, it shows a high level of intelligence on your part. God bless.
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2012-08-20 16:58:19 UTC
Homosexuality is not a choice.



There is nothing absolutely proven to be the cause of homosexuality, although many reputable people of many scientific communities agree that it is not a choice, and that it is genetic or that something happens that causes it during pregnancy or childbirth, however if the latter is true that it is naturally occurring and not a birth defect.



Studies of what causes human sexuality often become politicized, and rarely does anyone study such a thing with a neutral point of view.



Upbringing is a common argument for it being a choice, but that is impossible to prove and furthermore unlikely since every single individual's upbringing is different and there has been no absolute consistency between one homosexual person and the next. Upbringing is only proven to directly affect if an individual is open about their sexuality.



A large number of people agree that simply relying on a homosexual's experience is enough to prove that it is not a choice. Almost every homosexual says that they did not choose to be homosexual, and that they are incapable of finding the opposite sex sexually attractive. That by itself is as conclusive as any scientific study has gotten. Personal experiences of growing up homosexual are consistent with exactly what you would think they are; feeling an attraction towards the same sex in the same range of time as a heterosexual would during puberty. The largest difference between the two comes from a social standpoint, where most homosexuals know someone who is homophobic, and varying degrees of masking their sexuality become a defense mechanism.



Scientific studies suggest that there are actually a staggering number of homosexual and bisexual people who are not open about their sexuality to a single person, although heterosexuals still greatly outnumber homosexuals and bisexuals combined.
kumorifox
2012-08-20 16:13:15 UTC
No, it was never a choice whom I love. My only choice was to embrace who I am, rather than deny it. I made the realisation in my early 20s that I was attracted to men, then looked back and realised I already felt like that in my early teens.



No form of sexuality is a choice. Nobody makes a decision to like a certain gender, neither homosexuals nor heterosexuals, nor anyone else.



The true source of all forms of sexuality is not known at present. That is one reason there is so much research in the area. What is known, however, is that it is nature, and not nurture. People from as varied walks of life are homosexual, just as they can be heterosexual.



People who claim it is a choice are either in denial, trolls (like Agatha dearest, who claims she chose but decided not to un-choose, though she says homosexuality is evil) or want a reason to justify hatred and discrimination. Even the former head of Exodus claims that the whole "therapy" thing is fake, that people cannot choose whom to love, and cannot change.
2012-08-20 16:12:56 UTC
There are scientific explanations, but I'll tell you how I think it is from me.



I believe attraction is uncontrollable. I didn't set out to be lesbian, I didn't say to myself that I liked girls initially, it just came naturally and there is nothing I can do to stop it. I just feel attracted to girls and I know in my heart that I love a girl at the moment and it's out of my hands. I don't believe it's a choice because why would we choose to be discriminated and so on? I think it's just the way someone is. I don't want to know the scientific explanations or any other explanation, I'm just happy with who I am and I believe also that we are no different. And if we are, not in a bad way. :)
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2012-08-20 16:10:00 UTC
It's no more a choice than it was the last ten million times this question was asked. Sexuality is determined prenatally as your brain structures grow; it's caused by hormones and other growth chemicals. Gay or straight, you're "born that way".
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2012-08-20 16:14:01 UTC
"There is no such thing as a homosexual person, only a homosexual act." Gore Vidal.



"I think an orgasm is your thing, and you should f**k whoever the f**k you feel like f**king. Whoever makes you come the hardest. Anybody who says you shouldn't, politely tell them to mind their own business." Eddie Murphy.



You love who you love. You're attracted to what you're attracted to.
?
2012-08-20 16:11:38 UTC
Well I'm straight too, but I know it's not a choice. Is being straight a choice? No. There ya go
High School
2012-08-20 16:07:34 UTC
It is not by choice. But is known that there are certain genetic factors that contribute to one being gay. This video should explain it better



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PSQSx3OCrXQ
2012-08-20 16:08:01 UTC
you know that little box that pops up on the right when you're typing a question? it contains the same, or similar question to the one you are asking. you can research those for your answer. the purpose is to avoid having the same question posted here 100000x a day.
2012-08-20 16:06:05 UTC
no ofc not, their pet rock curses them


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