How do you know if your really bisexual or a lesbian ?

Question

I think i might bisexual or turning to a lesbian.
My moms family like her cousins are mostly lesbians,bi, and gay also from my dads side of the family

Ive always imagin myself being with a girl ever since i was little .I also liked guys but i never really been in a serious relationship with one.
I talked to this guy online about 3 years ago and we were talking for about 2 weeks then i found out he was cheating on me since then i still havent got over him and been depressed ever since cause i thought he was the one for me.We were planning on meeting eachother but it never hapoend. Hes the only guy ive ever liked so much more then any other guy but now he hates me and he doesnt want anything to do with me.

Since ive been depressed ive started to hate men cause how much they break girls hearts
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This year ive became attracted to girls but i feel like im just curious still or not.
I masturbate to pictures of female celebrities

i want to be with a girl but im scared what my friends might think of me or the people i know.

Im a very girlygirl but i dont want to date a girl who looks like a man.I want to date a girl who looks like a girly girl like me
I just really want to be in a relationship but its hard to find the right person for me :(.
Im very depressed about it
im 16 by the way

Answer 1

Most of us aren't 50/50. Every bisexual person I know can find SOME individuals of either sex attractive, but prefers one above the other.



I don't understand how talking to a guy online is something that is susceptible to "cheating." Talking to someone for 2 weeks isn't even an introduction, and I'm sorry, but an online "relationship" is about as binding as chocolate handcuffs, and although people can be attracted very quickly, deciding that someone is "the one" AT AGE 13, after a 2-week conversation... is just silly.



Don't use "Men are sooo mean" as an excuse to play lesbian, okay? And don't diss butch women.



Figure out what you want--both in your own life and from a partner. Most people, by the way, do NOT meet the love of their lives when they're 16, because you're not even halfway to being grown up and the person who will be right for you as an adult is not the person who would be right for you right now.



Learn patience.

Answer 2

"I talked to this guy online about 3 years ago and we were talking for about 2 weeks then i found out he was cheating on me since then i still havent got over him and been depressed ever since cause i thought he was the one for me."

You talked on line for 2 weeks and he's ruined your life for 3 yrs now. It's not normal to have gotten that emotionally involved so fast, or to have the effects last so long. I think you need to see a therapist to help you get a handle on your emotions.

"Since ive been depressed ive started to hate men cause how much they break girls hearts "

Not all guys break hearts and some women are real heart breakers. That's just life. Being depressed is not a good way to handle things. Please see a therapist who can help you work through any issues your having. Good luck

Answer 3

Being so young its easy to get confused, but let no one pull you in any direction. Think freely but dont stress on it. You may feel you like her today and him tomorrow. Men & wonen have thier flaws as you will find. Just do what today says to do andtry not to label yourself. You will fall in love with whoever you fall in love with, so persue as you feel it. Gay strait bi it doesnt really matter, love the day not the way :) hope this helps!

Answer 4

Bi means you find both male and female attractive. You can like one more than the other and still be considered bisexual.