Do you think she is confused about her feelings?

Question

I am going to try to make this short…

Okay, first let me explain myself I am a lesbian I have a crush on my best friend Em. I told her how I felt a couple of years ago but she doesn't feel the same way because she is pretty confused about herself and she claims she is a-sexual. Anyways I am trying my best to move on keeping myself busy and hobbies, however there are times I get confused about her actions and what she says to me so I just need some opinions about her.

I made a account on a dating website on okcupid.com and match.com I wanted to share this with my friends and when I told Em about me meeting women online she never replied to my text messages. I asked her “Does it bother you that I am talking to women online?” Her reply “no I am not bothered by it I am just concerned about you because I don’t trust online dating.”

The first women I met her name was Sabrina. We hit it off really well at first until she became too mysterious after a week passed and I didn’t trust her so I moved on.

The second women I met her name was Mary. She was fun but she became to pushy and creepy that same day we met.


Before I broke it off with Sabrina
I showed Em her picture she looked at Sabrina’s picture and handed the phone back to me. No expression what’s so ever?

Before I broke it off with Mary
I texted Em about Mary and how she was a pushy person to me to go out with her Em replied, “So what are you going to do?” I said “nothing really I just wanted to be friends with her nothing more.” And then 30 seconds later Em called me. We talked about random stuff for an hour.

That same week I met up with Em and our friends at a restaurant. I bought up the topic about Mary to Mandy. I noticed from across from me Em was talking to our friend Amy. Em started to become silent and looked at me during my conversation about Mary. Em then turned to Amy and started a new conversation with her. And then I started to notice that Amy and Em stop talking. Em was just sitting there looking away from me while ever one else was listening to my story about Mary.

Answer 1

I think Em does not want to see you date others. I think she wants you to stay her best friend. I think she is just unsure of her feelings for you. Ask Em out. Just you two. Ask her for a sleep over or something after. Maybe if you get her alone she will be different.

Maybe you will find out how she really feels. Good luck.

Answer 2

Maybe a hint of jealousy ? You can still have an affection for someone and still be asexual. It seems Em might still be a bit confused as to where she stands.

Answer 3

She may just feel jealous that you may find a gf and not hang out with her like you used too. It doesn't sound like she wants to be with you although I am sure she does love you and feel orotective about you.