Lesbian or just curious? where does one draw the line, if there is any that is.?

Question

I have always found girls attractive and not just because it's currently trendy. I would like to know what the "other side" is like, but i have a boyfriend whom i love very much. when we go out, i find myself checking out other girls (he obviously doesn't mind). A 3some, while a fun fantasy, doesn't seem like a realistic option, simply because there's so many feelings involved with everyone. should i secretly satisfy my need to know? if so...how do i go about it discreetly?

Answer 1

First, ask yourself if you are sexually attracted to your boyfriend. If you are, you are probably bi. Regardless, you should talk to him about it. Explain what you feel to him. If he cares about you he will try to understand your feelings. Whatever you do, do not have a threesome as your first experience with another woman. Your first experience should be just you and the other woman. If you do not satisfy your need to know about this you could end up making mistake after mistake in your life. I ended up miserable in marriage for many years. Granted I have wonderful kids from it, but that is the only good thing that came out of it. Once I came to terms with my feelings and accepted them, I found true happiness.



What ever you decide to do, be careful. If you decide to explore, be upfront with the partner you choose. Explain to her what is going through your mind. Be warned though, it may be a turn off to some lesbians and you may get rejected at first.

Answer 2

Well You Probally Are Just Curious... But I Can See Why You Cant Stop Looking At Women. Plus Women Know How To Please Each Other Cuse They Are Too Women. But If You Want A Threesome Talk To Your Boyfriend He Will Probally Agree Cuse We Men Have Fantasies About Two Women.

Answer 3

Well there is a chance that you may be bisexual, lesbian, or you may not enjoy being with women at all. The only way to find out for sure if your attraction to women is real is to experience intimacy with another woman. You have to decide for yourself if you think this is important enough to you to jeopardize your relationship with your boyfreind. Once you open this door there may be no turning back. If you do decide to be with a woman, I think its best that you tell your boyfriend about it, and discuss it with him, but don't participate in a threesome. That way you can reflect on the experience and decide what you want without being pressured into continued threesomes for his sake.

Answer 4

I wouldn't do it if you can't stop looking at other girls. You don't want to be bound. However, some do things just out of plain ol' freakiness, yet, there still not gay just freaky. But stay w/your boyfriend. There's a lot of freaky enjoyable things you can do with a man that a woman could never do to you. How do I know? I've never been gay but God can deliver freaks too. So much for youthful lust eh?

Answer 5

Maybe Bi, Girls sexuality in out society is much more fluid than for a man. Men might think gays are an abomination but have lesbian porn in their collection. So be a sexual scientist and experement with what works for you. Label yourself later.

Answer 6

I dont know that I would do it secretly. But thats me. Your curiosity might eat at you until you know. I think its something that you need to discuss with your bf and seriously consider doing something about it. I suppose you could do it discretely but I cant say thats the way I would go.

Answer 7

I would wait until you are single to check out women. It wouldn't be fair to your boyfriend it would be cheating. It wouldn't be fair to the girl either or to yourself. This is coming from a gay woman.