My son told me he wants to be a girl? help me! i dont know how to talk to him!!!?

Question

My son 19, told me he wants to be a transsexual, and doesn't want to be a man, he wants to be a woman...

And I'm completely shocked to hear this. I mean I never saw this comming

I mean idk, if I look back at it maybe I noticed some smaller details, but like I've noticed sometimes his finger nails where getting longer so I told him to cut them, and he yells at me.

And he watches his weight? I don't want to be sexist, but how many guys do that? And he does have style, he knows what do wear and ect. He also way back wanted to be fashion designer, (I thought he was gay) but now I don't know? Help?!

I mean, I'm against it, but should I? Do you think he is transsexual? Should I get him help to see someone? Or what?

Answer 1

The only thing you can do is learn to accept it. I'm bi, and acceptance is the only thing I could ever want from my parents. There is alot of hate pointed to the glbt community, and its all about religion, and whether it's 'right or wrong', but really you have very little power over it, which is overwhelming at first. Put yourself in his shoes, because it took some real dignity for him to tell you that. Listen to what he has to say, because he's just trying to express himself the way he thinks he should be, and you should accept him for who he is. :3

Answer 2

The worst thing you could do right now is get him "help" if he wants to be transsexual than let him. P.s he's not transsexual until he's a girl. (I think that's how it works) plz plz plz try not to be against this. You need to be there for your son because he might be going through a lot. Let him pursue his goals no matter how Girly they are and where what he wants no matter how fashion savvy they are. He needs your acceptance and understanding

Answer 3

You should love your child for who he is. Accepting him will be the best choice you can do for him. Rejecting him can lead you down a path or depression and stress. Do you really want to end your relationship with your son, and forget about him? You helped him through life, clothed and fed him. Be happy for him, and try to take things little by little. the world is changing slowly so, there for you should too.

Answer 4

I think you should accept him for who he is..Because you know what happens to run away boys...First of all you go up to his room and talk to him alone..and ask him if he really wants to be a girl...If so, then tell him that you are okay with it and ask him what you could do for him...And just leave him alone so that he can make up his mind...He will come talk to you for sure...



Hope this helps...

Answer 5

Instead of worrying whats your going to do about him, listen to what he has to say. Its really common for most transsexuals to have feeling of being the wrong body from birth, I'm sure that he can explain to you how he feels and how you can help him become the person he needs to be in order to be happy.

Answer 6

-sighs- you're his parent am i right? and you love him unconditionally. then shouldn't you support your son regardless of ethnics and such? he wants to be a female, he might be gay, but so what? he might already be going through a lot of discrimination outside of family, and i think a reason he told you this is because he wants support from at least family, or else he might not have anywhere else to go to. i'm not saying you shouldn't be against it, but don't yell at him for this, just state your reasons, don't scold him, and support him as much as you can.



and as for the watching weight thing, i know a lot of straight guys that do that

Answer 7

you and your son should see a professional so that you can take the right healthy steps forward. you dont want him to feel anymore alone than he probably already does. make sure you let him share and you listen to what he has to say. he is still your child no matter what and you need to let him know you love him no matter what he is.

Answer 8

Your son is really your daughter. Start treating her like your daughter and you won't have many problems between you. Here, read this to help you understand what she's going through.

http://transsexual.org/aprimer.html

Answer 9

If your son wants to be a woman then let him become a woman. It is how he identifies with the world and you should love him no matter what........and I think at the surgons office they require them to go through mental evaluations.

Answer 10

counseling, for you both of you, is the best bet. He will need someone to talk to, as will you. There is nothing wrong with being a transsexual, you just need more information on it.

Answer 11

accept it. he does not need help. you should still love your son no matter what.