Why are all the people in this gay and lesbian site so mean and sarcastic in their answers to questions?

Question

I have a friend who is gay and sometimes I ask questions here. I just asked a question and one answer I had to delete because it was so mean. Another one I kept but he was mean too. I gave the best answer to a Reverand who gave me a good answer and he was nice. I assume he is normal. Is it that the gay and lesbian people are ashamed of their sexuality and over compensate by being extra mean? My friend is really nice and he would never put someone down like they do here, except I don't think he bothers with Yahoo Answers.

Answer 1

OMG, that's exactly what I'm saying. People are asking serious questions &they get responses that not only DON'T answer their questions, but are really negative. It makes me so frustrated!

Answer 2

Well, whether you notice it or not (and, though, because this is the internet, I do not preclude the possibility that you are aware and are just being a troll), your questions contain loaded language. You phrase your sentences, such as "Is it that the gay and lesbian people are ashamed of their sexuality and over compensate by being extra mean?" in ways that put down gay people. This elicits anger, as people generally do not enjoy being passive-aggressively insulted, even if it is merely a perception and not a deliberate insult.



However, as I have not read your previous questions, I do not know whether this was true for your previous experience, merely my attempts to extrapolate from the little writing sample I do have. If you would like a more accurate answer, please provide details of the question and its responses. Believe me, rude LGBT members are not the norm, unless provoked, usually by people condemning LGBT.

Answer 3

Considering your last questions listed before this was whether he should wear a wedding dress because he is bisexual I am not surprised people assume you are a homophobic troll.



The answer you got to this were actually restrained considering your question implied he was a faux female for wanting to do guys.



Show respect, common sense and some intelligence and you may find you receive more serious answers.



@Weeping Angel - well said.



EDIT I just looked - your taking advice from someone called Reverend SHITSTAIN BROWN? Your more of a fool that I suspected lol

Answer 4

Because your questions come off as ignorant and mean-spirited, and so you get answers in kind.



By the way, homosexuality IS normal. It is a normal variation of the pair-bonding instinct that occurs in hundreds of species, and in humans continues to occur at a fairly constant rate in spite of efforts to discourage, repress, or even eradicate it.



The very suggestion that you might try and trap your bi guy friend with a pregnancy shows that you are immature and self-centered. That's not being sarcastic or mean; ask any social worker, psychologist, or doctor and they will tell you the same thing.

Answer 5

That's the nature of the beast, the anonymity of the internet makes a perfect space for those that are frustrated in every day life to take that anger out on people they don't know in real life. They can come here and be mean and bitter, so they feel better about the lack of control they have in their own lives.

Answer 6

You have to understand that there are immature kids out here trying to make fun of peoples questions. I liked yahoo a lot better 3 years ago. People were mature and gave their best answer without making fun. It's not just gay/lesbian. I asked a question about homework help n somehow got insulted lol. my best advise is don't take it personal, some of these fools don't know you.

Answer 7

It really depends on the tone of the question, hon. For instance, your line "I assume he is normal" nearly got you the Full-On Sarcasml. Gays and Lesbians (and, dare I say it?) transfolk are normal as well. So, perhaps your attitude is garnering you the "mean" answers.



If you can provide a link to a couple of your questions, it would be easier to answer this.

Answer 8

I read that question, and answered it, I could not see any answer that was unreasonable other than the guy who paints him self as a reverend.

You were not asking for relationship advice for your self and I am sure your wise enough to be able to decided who is right for your bed.



Why he/she found a need to carry on about you sex life in response to your question about what same a sex couple would wear at their wedding, his thoughts were beyond me.

Answer 9

Usually the questions themselves provoke such responses. Like yours, just look at the implications you made, consciously or not. I guess it depends on our moods too. There's also the high amount of trolls in this category, with that in mind people are usually on the defensive.

Answer 10

I'm bi an androgynous I hate that too I never put anyone down on here I only put down the ones that I rude about lgbt I want to help any questions u can email me at [e-mail] I'm 16 but can really help so email me if you want and I won't judge anyone I can helP

Answer 11

Many times insecure people clad themselves in irony. Other times they are plainly insensitive to other people's pain, hidden behing a PC screen, just like your next hetero girl/guy.

Answer 12

We aren't trying to be mean... Some people just ask REALLY stupid questions.

Answer 13

You know the old addage "if you ask a stupid question, you'll get a stupid answer"? That applies here :)

Answer 14

Because homosexuality can be linked as a disorder much like retardation.

They know this so they make everyone else who is normal seem inferior.

Answer 15

some people are just mean by nature I guess

Answer 16

"I assume he is normal."



If you can't see how Entitled and Privileged that attitude makes you then it's no wonder people snark at you.

Answer 17

Maybe we wouldn't be so mean to you if you weren't so ugly.