how to know if she homosexual?

Question

well i want to know if my friend has a crush on me or something? (she is a girl and so am i.... but am Straight, but i don't know if she is) i have this friend who is a girl and i always hear this rumor going around that she is a lesbian and she hits on girls....but i don't know if it is true or not, anyways she does some really weird things that a " straight" girl would do to another girl (me) as a friend...

1. when someone says to her "oh Sarah you are lesbian"... she doesn't say anything she just laughs
but if someone would have said that to me i would not have laughed i would take it personally.
2. she flirts to much with me she says things that are a bit weird she says things such i love you so much.... i want to spend lunch time with you.....i wish i was next to you so i entertain you!
3. she is always giving me this look like she is going to do something to me.
4. she always says to me that she wants to be my girlfriend.



so please be honest and tell me what you think

thank you

Answer 1

This is one of the rare stories where it actually sounds like she fancies u. but its never a 100% yes she does so still play it safe and keep playing her game like blushing when she is being really sweet and laughing at her lame jokes but if you say she is staring into your eyes like she is about to kiss you then stare back into her eyes see what happens just as long as you thought it through think about your friendship before you try anything. Its a gamble you could lose her as a mate or have her as more than a mate either way those feelings you have developed could eventually ruin your friendship but will either make it bigger or less than friends. There is a small chance that you will get off lucky and keep her as a mate. Time will tell all

Answer 2

1) So, just because she doesn't respond aggressively to the 'accusation', which, by the way, is probably meant as a joke - she must be gay? Nice logic.



2) Some people are flirty. I'm a lesbian, and I flirt with the majority of my male friends. It's easier to flirt with guys because it means nothing. It's all for fun. They know I'm gay and it's fun to banter like that. So maybe she's straight and she likes to flirt with girls because it's easier, too.



3) That's you're personal interpretation of 'the look'. Obviously, if you believe she might be gay and hitting on you, you will see things that will enforce your belief. 'The look' could be nothing.



4) She could be joking. I always say I wish Silky was my boyfriend because he is very kind, sweet, and buys me chocolate every time I see him. I don't fancy him, it's just that I mean it would be good if he was my boyfriend because he is fun and he treats me well. Maybe she sees you as a good friend. Or maybe she's that particular kind of flirty person.



Explanations for every point you had, but if it's really bothering you, just begin to probe her about it subtly - for example, say 'have you ever done anything with a girl?' If she is the flirty type, then it is likely she will easily answer this question. In fact, it's almost certain. Then you can just go from there.

Answer 3

Just in response to #1... I think it's cool that she's comfortable enough with who she is that she can laugh off someone calling her a lesbian - that's someone who's supremely self-confident and laughs at other's ridiculousness.



You only take offense because you see being a lesbian as a bad thing (which its not).

Answer 4

Why don't you pull her aside and talk to her about it in private about this? She might just be really affectionate, or maybe she's joking? She could possibly be gay, which is not a bad thing, but I understand that it could make you feel uncomfortable if you don't feel the same way about her.

Answer 5

Yeah! She is a lesbian. If you are straight go get yourself a man. I am not a homosexual, however;

I have much experience with them in my work life. Homosexuals of both sexes, transsexuals, cross dressers etc.