Dating a guy but lesbian..ahh help!?

Question

Hi guys I posted this question a week ago but have an add on!

Hey guys im 18 and I know so clearly now that i am a lesbian. I've known since I was a kid but my problem is, Im seeing a guy now.. When I used to have boyfriends it ment nothing to me and still doesnt but this time its different. Everytime i see him or im about to see him i get butterflies in my stomach, I feel sick. This is the first time in my life I've not felt right about myself. Ive been thinking about coming out for awhile now as its becoming so much more clearer to me so I should have known better than to 'date' a guy at work. I feel like crap, im so unhappy, when we're together all i think about is girls..its unfair on him.

But like i said, Ive always known i was gay but latley its a big deal to me cos i want to be happy and i love girls. I date guys to hide suspicions and im sick of it because people think im happy and im not. guys what should i do?! please help

Ok guys this is my new update: we've taken the relationship to the next level now and obviously i still think of girls when we're doing it..the thing is I hardly get no pleasure anymore even when thinking of girls but when I have 'some alone time' I'm loving it, feels good. Its really bothering me now. When we kiss I feel nothing, I might aswell be kissing a wall. I know this will be the last relationship i have with a guy because i cant keep lying to myself or others. I want to come out, but its compfy in the closet. I know for a fact i will be accepted by my family as they already know, they always say, especially my mum 'if you ever told me your a lesbian i would still love you and it would make no difference' I love my family so much but im still scared to come out but I cant handle this burden anymore.

I was also wondering, do you guys know of anyway i can..hint? not hint like 'oh my god that girls hot' but kind of make my gay vibe more out there?

Please help guys, I know im not innocent, im hurting my boyfriend and its not fair on him...i know that. Thanks x

Answer 1

Just tell him that he's a nice guy, but you finally realized you're a lesbian. He probably won't believe you, he'll just think that you're dumping him, and telling him that you're a lesbian so that he won't think you're dumping him. But if you really want to convince him, just invite him over to watch you and another female naked in bed together having sex. I know that would convince me, maybe not the first time, but definitely after about 69 times it would.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well, first off, I wouldn't go any deeper into the relationship. The deeper you go the more it will be shocking when you do come out. I'm sure if you do explain it to him nicely he will understand. Coming out is kind of scary, and I read that one way of easing it on other people is to start to show signs of the stereotypical gay person. Find stereotypes of lesbians and try to gradually fit them (not changing yourself) and maybe it will ease the transition for other people. If your parents are okay with it like you said, than don't be scared of telling them. You don't have to come out fully, maybe you can ask your parents for help in this situation after you tell them.

Answer 4

Your Mom is more than hinting at you. She already knows; she just wants you to admit it so she doesn't have to pretend that she doesn't know.



Let girls catch you ogling and smiling at other girls. You don't have to be a WILD ogler.

Answer 5

Be honest..

don't be scared eaither...

if im honest i think ur selffish 2 not tell the truth cuz ur ryt ..

u r hurtin this guy