Question:
How do you get a straight girl with a boyfriend to like you?
anonymous
2010-12-30 00:16:46 UTC
Hi everyone :) my name is Rainy, I'm a 20 yr old bisexual. I have not come out yet, for several reasons, mainly because my parents are hard core relgious, and i fear my life if i were to express it, but i will,,,maybe in a couple years, anyways the real issue, is to everyone out there im just anothr straight girl, that is open minded. kisses other girls at parties. Now i've had boyfriend and such, and one girlfriend(which no one knew about...she was straight too, and has a boyfriend now...by the way still claiming to be straight...even to me! lol) my point is i am head over heels madly in love with this girl...let's call her NORAH...i love everything about her, she is my identical person. we have similiar taste in pretty much everything. she's talented, i'm convinced she'll be on broadway some day. Hands down, the smartest girl i know. and most of all, she's beautfiul. I'm the outgoing sarcastic social type,but around her i freeze, shes just so beautiful and deserves to be with someone who will appreciate her for just how amazing she is. really. you know in those cheesy romance movies where there's the typical zac efron and angelina jolie type, perfect looking, and they are head over heals for eachother, everything matches in every way, and your like..what bullshit haha. well i'm ******* efron and she's angelina! hotter even! now here lies the problem ...she's straight and has a boyfriend. which shes always having problems with. when we first became friends, i never had any inclination towards her..in anyway..no love at first sight..because deep down she intimidated me, but then one night we went on this school trip and she was grabbing me,(perfectly sober) and we got >...< this close to kissing. she even grabbed my hand for a split of a split second, we talked for hours and hours, and she even told me how she's kissed tons and tonssssss of women! she was deff flirting people,!! grabbing my hair and ****. ever since then my feelings changed, then she had moments of pure alienation. dry and cordial. its been several months and now we're considered "good friends" we've had sleep overs, the works. she tells me about her guy problems, as do i. so we're there. she even cuddled with me when i slept over.(a friendly cuddle people) but nothing ever like that first couple weeks we got to know eachother. the signs were booming!! anyhoo, now after seeing how creative, and well spoken and just beautifully perfect she is, i find myself thinking about her, almost everyday. can i somehow, get her to fall in love with me? i already got one straight girl (cool girl status haha) but this isnt even about a game, i just want to kiss her lips, once. i can give her all the things shes desired from a guy and more. any tips on how to persuade her without coming out myself.???? thanks guys.
Eight answers:
reme_1
2010-12-30 00:31:29 UTC
Number one- you are old enough to be on your own and come out. Contact pflag.org and ask for brochures about religion and being gay. Before you come out, do some preparation. Make sure you have a place to live or to go to temporarily if your coming out day goes badly. You need to meet some parents of gay friends.You may need their help to pick you up or offer you a roof.

Get to work on this now. Living in the closet is not healthy for you. Get the info from pflag and then one day tell your folks. Give them the info and let them think about it for a while.

I am not telling you to come out tomorrow but everyday you let this go on your parents have this hold over you.

Regarding the girl, leave straight girls alone. It only will cause you pain. Maybe one day she will realize she isn't straight but in the meantime she can play head games with you and then leave you for her boy friend. Get involved with the gay community and meetgirls who really are gay.

In my 35+years being out I have fallen for 2 straight women- not on purpose of course but your heart does what it wants. In one situation I had to move and in the other I had to resign from a teaching position because I couldn't concentrate when the woman was near. And the pain lasts a long time. There is no getting around that.

Get busy and find other outlets for your heart. HUGS
Sawyer
2010-12-30 00:22:24 UTC
I'm sorry to say this but she's STRAIGHT. I'm going to be blunt: There is no way you guys could ever be together. Reason why? Because STRAIGHT women can have as much fun as they like with women. But in the end they are STRAIGHT and want a MAN instead of a women. Before going any further, just stop your love for her. You and HER will get hurt if you try to lay a move on her. And your relationship as just friends won't even work. You HAVE to GET OVER HER. It's good for you.... I'm sorry but it's true.



Let 'just friends' be the most, because if you try anything more, you won't even have that. She's straight, she's never going to want you seriously.....
lauren
2010-12-30 00:19:41 UTC
If she's really straight she won't like you. Sorry. I'm straight and I could never be "persuaded" to like a girl romantically because I'm STRAIGHT. If she's bisexual herself then maybe. Orientation doesn't change like the weather. If she all of a sudden likes you romantically she wasn't straight to begin with...
anonymous
2017-02-15 16:18:15 UTC
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Lisa
2016-03-01 03:59:46 UTC
My GF and I do this all time, well kinda. We always point out a hot girl. Me personally I look at women and mentally build the perfect woman.........."her" breasts with "her" butt with "her" tight abs............. I also compare myself to women and see how i measure up. I am very insecure, but would never degrade another woman by calling her ugly or names.
anonymous
2010-12-30 00:18:47 UTC
I didn't read all that jank. Sorry.



Anyway, I don't think you'd be able to actually turn a straight chick lesbian, but you could get her really drunk if she has a fight with her boyfriend or something, then at least have sex with her.
Melody♫♪
2010-12-30 00:18:16 UTC
She's straight the only thing your gonna be is friends .
i dont get it
2010-12-30 00:23:40 UTC
you don't shes straight


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