Ex girlfriend - did I do the right thing?

Question

This isnt like most of the questions I read on here, I just need to ask some neautral people if they think I have done the right thing.

My ex girlfriend has messed me around for 4 years. She has broken up with me three times and all as a result of her cheating on me, with her ex and most recently with a lad of her course at university. She was honest enough to admit to these herself (following drink) and broke up with me this time saying she knows she would keep on hurting me.

Now the usual routine would be a few months later she would be in touch and I would go running and fall for whichever story it was that time. This time I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't and would move on.

The day she broke up with me was the day I started my new job as a manager in my career, this was following months of hard work and a pretty intense interview process. That day I got up and went to work feeling like I had everything, came home and it was all shattered. After she broke up with me she wanted to gather her things to which I asked her to come back the next day and do because it was a bit too much for me to sit through in one day.

I done the sensible thing in deleting her numbers, blocking facebook and emails, as I didn't want to fall into that trap again.

She never came back for her things the next day, in fact she never came back after a month. So I decided I needed to throw them out and needed to clear her things out of my space.

The next day she came for her things while I was at work, my flatmate told her I had got rid of her things. She had a month to get her all her stuff, she knows where I live and she knows generally what time I or my flatmate are in.

I suppose what I am asking is did I do the right thing in throwing her stuff away? Why did she wait a month to come for it? And I why do I feel guilty for doing it?

Answer 1

To me you did the right thing...she keeps waiting a month or a long period of time to see how long she can drag you on,or pretty much run you over ... dont feel guilty for throwing her stuff away .. cuz that means you are standing up for your self basically telling her your not going to take her **** anymore ... there is better out there my friend just have to wait.

Answer 2

Well done good for you hun ^_^

And Yep a month is plenty of time. (your not storage)



If it went to court they'd ask "So why did you(your ex) not arrange to collect anything of your possessions in that month? They were obviously of no value etc.



Also If she desperately needed it she could have got the police to assist her in the collection of her possessions.



All i can say is don't worry you've got no liability xx

Unless she tried to arrange with you and you refused (which you didn't so no worries )

Answer 3

Seems good to me.

Only caveat, if you didn't tell her you were going to throw them away if she didn't come to collect them - in law you may be on a sticky wicket if she decides on litigation!



I would have given her a deadline and once that passed she has no legal comeback. Now it looks like she has. Just hope she doesn't know a lawyer.