A question for gay guys about dating?

Question

So I just turned 18 years old and I'm graduating from high school. I came out of the closet back in December while I was in my first ever relationship. We broke up back in March and I decided to finish high school without worrying about dating. However, I now have this fear of never meeting another guy that will be interested in me. My question is for other gay guys, how do you meet/ find other guys looking for a relationship. It's not like we can just hit on a guy without knowing if he's gay or straight, right. I just feel like straight guys have it so much easier with how thy can just hit on any girl. I need some advice/ help. Thanks in advance!!

Answer 1

Maybe try some gay dating sites.

Answer 2

Men Seeking Men good site http://www.menseekingmen.org



These adult dating sites are excellent for you for anyone who is a gay because this feels little embarrassed to find a gay partner in open place. It is true that the government of several nations around the world has given legal permission to gays to marry but nonetheless these relationships are not really open before the people. Internet world is the better place to find a gay partner in your case. You have complete freedom to state your feelings here. It is well known that in most on the cases the sexual angle between people of same sex isn't accepted by the organizations. Now through the gay paid dating sites, you can independently locate a cool partner for an individual. There is no ought to hear the denials as well as negativisms around you from differing people. Even males who attempt to flirt with other males may finish up having great trouble. So, the gay dating sites are surely perfect when it comes about males searching out for other males.

Answer 3

Hey, Nick.



Right now your avenues to meet people are probably kind of limited. That's not your fault because up until age 18, most people live in the same place without seeing much of the world.



If you plan on going to college, your possibilities will begin to open up. Support groups, social clubs and ad hoc clubs that are LGBT friendly are becoming much more common on campuses all over. Obviously the abundance of social media sites makes it easier than ever for you to seek out and find other gay males looking for all sorts of things: one-night-stands, relationships, friends, FB's, etc. There is no guarantee that you will NEVER hit on a str8 guy. It happens frequently and aside from feeling a little sheepish (and unless the guy is a TOTAL homophobe and tries to physically harm you), no harm, no foul. Some people develop a rather keen sense of intuiting others' sexuality (aka "Gaydar") but in case you don't have that (I'm gay and I think I was in the bathroom when they were handing out the Gaydar units...), going to places/communities/groups where LGBT predominate will greatly increase your chance of meeting someone.



The trick is: to find LGBT communities and places where LGBT concentrate and throw yourself into mix with a positive attitude. Not many people like the moody, high-drama, high maintenance kind of BF. PRIDE parades are a great way to be out there in the crowd and to start broadening your horizons. No one is BORN with the knowledge of how to meet people or date or know where all the cool LGBT places are. Be curious, ask questions and your LGBT brothers and sisters will take care of you.



Generally speaking, your larger metropolitan areas are going to have a better chance of having an LGBT enclave somewhere in the city. Cities like NYC, Chicago, LA, San Francisco and Seattle are obvious places but ANY city of size--Columbus, OH; Milwaukee, WI; Miami, FL; Philadelphia, PA; Portland, OR; Minneapolis, MN; Phoenix, AZ; Indianapolis, IN; Atlanta, GA; Orlando, FL; Des Moines, IA--all have their pockets of LGBT which are thriving communities. The LGBT folk in smaller towns may not be as visible because "reputation and private lives" are more guarded.



Don't worry about meeting someone! You're only 18! You have a LOT of years ahead of you to find your special someone! In the meantime, enjoy the ride!

Answer 4

I personally wouldnt try to rush anything. It's all about WANTING to be with someone, not because you need them. When you start needing them, you become independent and need to rely on others to tell you how beautiful and wonderful you are. I personally just make friends with everyone. If I meet a hot guy and turns out to be possibly gay, I flirt and if it works or doesnt, then it's just fate isnt it? It just happens.

Answer 5

I think the best way for you is in college through friends. My friend introduced me and let me know my husband of two and partner of 9 more years was interested in me and was a good guy. Having friends help you find someone can be great because someties they open you up to possibilities you havent thought of, and they also watch out for you, so the odds of accidently shacking up/dating the local sperm bank is decreased substantially.. There's no better filter..

Answer 6

Its a lot easier if you have a lot of gay friends. Get out there, and make friends!



Not to mention, faghags are a great help.

Answer 7

Actually, you can (and I often do) hit on a guy before you know his orientation. So long as hitting on is only verbal, what's the problem?

Answer 8

Through friends or online I don't recomend gay clubs unless you are into girly stereotypical gay guys