People at school think im gay? wanna kill my self?

Question

Im freaking out, i think my life is over. So let me tell you my story. And this is in all honesty. About a month ago, I started questioning if i was maybe Bi-sexual. Ive always been attracted to girls, but i had a feeling in the back of my mind that maybe, just maybe, i was alittle bi-curious. I started messaging this gay guy at my school, i told him about how i felt. He promessed he wouldnt tell anyone. I can drive, he cant, so about 2 weeks ago i drove over to his house to meet up. before getting there i was feeling nervous, i had a feeling that what i was doing was wrong. Once i got to his house, the moment he got out the front door i knew that i had made a mistake. What was a doing there. when he got in my car, i felt so awkward. I wanted out of there, i could barely speak. after about a min of just sitting there, and some small talk, i told him my parents wanted me home and that it was an emergency. I had to get out of that situation somehow, to he left and i went home. When he got out of my car, i was almost shaking. i never talked to him again after that. At that point, i knew for sure that i was wrong. Im completely straight. I have been all my life. Ive had girlfriends, actually ended a relationship of 7 months this summer. Ive hooked up witl alot of girls and had sex with 3 different ones. And just today, i found out my friends saw or know of screenshots of me and the gay guy talking. They all think im gay. I dont know what to do!!! im not! i dont even wana show up to school tomorrow. Please some one help me. How can i deny this, if there is screenshots of text messages. The worst part is that im not gay at all, if i was then i would just accept it!! i made a big big mistake, i shouldnt have trusted that gay guy. i think he showed people because i stopped talking to him. My life is ******* over, i wanna kill my self. All my friends will be gone. Please some one tell me what im gonna do with this huge problem?!?!?!

Answer 1

Relax man. First off - this is a confusing time in your life. You did what a lot of people don't have the courage to do and you looked head on to the possibility that you could be bi-sexual. You realized that you aren't. Now there's no more wondering about it. Many of the hateful people around you might be a lot more "gay" than they will ever let on, but they won't be honest with themselves - they'll only project their self-hatred on other people.



As for what other people think - you approach it calmly and confidently. If they ask you why you were talking to this dude, you could say "ya - I hung out with him, is that such a horrible thing? Can't a gay person and a straight person be friends?" I mean really - this is 2013. I thought we're less homophobic than that. This young man shouldn't be shunned because he's gay and people who befriend him shouldn't be shunned or teased either. If they want to know about your sexual identity, you can tell them that you're straight. If they choose not to believe you then that's their problem. If they keep teasing you, you might want to point out that they seem rather offensive about it and that's usually an indication that someone isn't comfortable with their own sexuality. When someone attacks someone else so much regarding their sexuality, it's usually because they're just transferring their self-hatred onto you. Good chance they're more bi-sexual than you thought you were.



And by the way - the guy that mentioned that girls may be even less of a challenge for you now is absolutely right. Hot girls love a challenge. They have no shortage of guys bending over backward to impress them. So if they thought you were maybe bisexual or gay and they thought they could "convert" you, it would be a huge ego boost for them! Trust me - one of the easiest places I've ever picked up hot women was in a gay bar. Sounds crazy, but it's because they love the challenge.

Answer 2

You can still deny it. .Really the best way to get through with this is if you accept

Yourself for what you are. You're still

In denial sweetie and I'm sorry. I've been there I know how you feel. All of that nervousness you experienced does not prove you are straight. If you were so sure you were straight you would have never a) pursued anything with this gay kid b) been so damn nervous about it. If you've had urges more than once they will

come back, sorry. You can repress them as I did successfully for over 2 years. But I wouldn't advise that. That near panic attack is something that I have experienced and its just part of the self realization process. More will come. When I was going into my senior year of hs the exact thing happened to happened to me except I never wanted to talk to that flamer in the first place. It sucked but guess what, in college a lot of "straight " guys went to me for exploration because of it. You'll see.

Answer 3

First, there's no such thing as bad publicity. Girls may be even less of a challenge for you now.



Second, maybe that guy did show some screen shot because you stopped talking to him. What you did was pretty effin rude from his perspective. If you're man enough, you should go to him and apologize. Then, maybe you can man-up enough to ask him to tell people that so far as he knows you are straight.



Good luck.

Answer 4

"Please some one tell me what im gonna do with this huge problem?!?!?!"



Stop giving yourself a problem! It sounds like you really are attracted to him but you're extremely homophobic so you freaked out about it. If you felt nothing for him you wouldn't be shaking from sitting alone in a car with him. If you were so sure that you're straight you would not panic if people think you like guys too. You'd be like, "Nah, he's just a friend, thanks for asking." So stop doing this to yourself and RELAX!!! There's nothing wrong with same-sex relations. Drill this truth into your head!



Do you really want friends who would abandon you for such a thing? They're not even real friends if they would do that, forget them. Find new people who will accept you for who you are. You cannot kill yourself because of immature bigots.

Answer 5

Jeez, fella, get a grip. You're allowed to have gay friends, to meet with them, talk with them. In two years, those immature twerps who surround you will be distant memories, if that. You're probably bi-curious, like everyone else who isn't out and out gay. It's no big deal. Neither is freaking out from time to time. You're a teenager, you're allowed. This, too, shall pass, as the adage goes.

Answer 6

If they're your real friends they shouldn't judge you for doing that.



Tell your friends exactly what happened and how you feel.. If they can't come to terms with it, oh well. Find someone else to hang out with.



You're worrying WAY too much about what other people think. That's not good. Who cares if a few idiots think you're gay.

Answer 7

Karl fxxx it my friend... in 1 weeks time from now noone will be even thinking of it if they are fuxk em all my friend...chicks might like it anyway they will think its hot... :) dont stress you will be fine ... if anyone does ask say the bloke is crazy and really gay.. i hav no clue what he is talking about... ok ... enjoy it ... just say i wanted to try it but im not gay even but i relise it s sad and i dont like it i like the chicks

Answer 8

Hey don't mind with it, there are bad things that even can't be compared with it, people that love you won't leave you alone, I love you and many people is going to tooo :) kisses from your brazilian friend