Am I gay or just confused?

Question

I am a 17 year old guy. I think I am gay but then again I think I am somewhat confused. I first came out October of 2012 as gay but then my sister thought I was bisexual and it really confused me. Part of me thinks I am gay and another part of me thinks I am bisexual. The reasons I think I am gay, is I always knew I was different. I liked to play with girls more than guys, I always did girly things such as playing with barbies. I even used to but a ball up my shirt and pretend I was pregnant. I was and still am a somewhat feminine guy. Not to say that straight guys can't do those things. I am very confused. The reason I think I am bisexual is because I still find women attractive. I can even get turned on by anal straight porn, however if it's vaginal straight porn I can't. I am attracted to women, and I could have sex with one or something but I don't find the female genitalia attractive whereas I do for men. So how could I have sex with a women but not find her vagina ugly. One of my good friends thinks there's a part of me that just hasn't excepted the fact that I am gay. Another reason that might play a role is that my psychiatrist is pretty sure that I have borderline personality disorder and that could play a part on why I might be confused. In the end though, labels don't really matter and I know that, but I still want to know if I am gay or not. If I was bisexual, I would NEVER have sex with a women. I would simply deny my feelings and only date men. It might sound crazy, but I actually want to be gay. Sorry, but I don't want to be bisexual. So am I gay or just confused?

Answer 1

Ok.....



Here are some questions!



How do you feel mentally and emotionally towers girls/guys?



Imagine you with a girl/guy. How do you feel?

Are you attracted to guys(should not take long to think write down what you first think of!)

Are you attracted to girls?(should not take long to think write down what you first think of!)

Why? Why not?



Look at your results and determine how you feel about each gender..

Are you Bi, Gay or pan-sexual?

Pick one!



And write some where sacred why you pick one of these!



Write all of your answers and calculate!



I used the same questions to determine if I was a lesbian and I am am!

Good Luck

Noni xoxo

Answer 2

"Sexuality is fluid, whether you're gay or you're straight or you're bisexual, you just go with the flow."-Shane (from The L Word) This is a really good quote to think about from one of my favorite tv shows. Probably the best thing you can do is stop caring whether people see you as gay or bi and just be whatever. I would say you were gay, until something changed, like maybe hooking up with a girl and enjoying it for example. Every situation is different, you may only ever find guys to be what you want, but you may find a girl who's got something about her you just can't resist, you'll never know until you're in that situation. So if you want to be gay, then be gay, and if that ever changes, it's not a big deal. Just go with whatever you feel is right at the time.

Answer 3

If ur gay ur gay if ur bi ur bi Deal with it and Decide :) And you don't need a label.The fact is you like guys simple.