I have made a new conclusion for my gender identity, and I want your own personal opinion if I am right...?

Question

As far back as I can remember, I always had more feminine traits than masculine ones, despite the fact that I have a p e n i s. I remember before I knew what lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual meant, when I was in pre-school and the class would have inside recess, I would put on a skirt while the other children were playing tag or with their Tonka trucks. I also remember when I was seven years old I was yelled at more than one occasion when i was caught trying on makeup. I would just put on eyeshadow, foundation, and the reddest lipstick I can find. By my junior year of high school I came out as gay. But even before that I had fantasies of wanting to be like the beautiful woman on television. The damsel in distress where I could have a protective man to look after me. I also admired the elegant dresses that I would see on some old tv shows and I really wanted to try them out. I am comfortable with my d i c k, but i still think that I am missing something in the mix. My identity, my body, and my soul do not add up or equal to the right answer. My soul, brain and spirit are not in the same body. I just feel more girly than ever. What do you guys think? Do you think I truly am a woman at heart and that I should pursue the steps needed to become a full woman?

Answer 1

Ignore the boys; it makes them cringe when you talk about SRS.



However -- your fantasy of being "the beautiful damsel in distress on TV" is a fantasy about a situation that does not exist. Being female means your opinions carry less weight, you make about 70cents for every $1 a man makes, you're likely to be expected to do more work for less money, and if you marry, the guy will expect you to hold down a job AND do all the housework and cooking, unless you are remarkably fortunate. Oh, and if you adopt? Until the kid is old enough to be out of diapers, most men will figure that's your job, too.



I think you might try cross-dressing, you might be one hell of a drag queen. As far as pursuing SRS, that means counseling because the procedure is not reversible.



Talk to a gender identity therapist.





This is a site for young people (under 35) to discuss the issue

http://www.TrueSelves.com

(all)

http://www.susans.org/



Here is a list of gender therapists to see who can help you get started in working out the issues

http://www.DrBecky.com/therapists.html



Definition

http://www.t-vox.org/index.php?title=Tra…

http://www.webmd.com/sex/gender-identity…



Here is a list of educational sites that can help you learn about the issue



On this site you can find a list of people who fit into society perfectly

http://www.LynnConway.com



Help in transitioning

http://www.TSRoadmap.com

http://transsexual.org/index.html

http://www.transgendercare.com/



A Surgeons Site

http://www.marcibowers.com/

Source(s): YA user kathryn white, thanks!

Answer 2

In the end its up to you if you are confy with yourself is all that matters, the next step is finding a big strong man who loves you for you.

Personally i feel similar i am a female i am confy with my body but it doesnt fell like it belongs to me like it doesnt represent who i am inside

i would not get surgery on something that is such a small part of my relationship. And I'm dating a girl who likes girls so i dont need it or want it.

Answer 3

Personally to me you sound like a cross-dresser but at the same time you may just classify as transsexual, it is very hard for me to tell. You seem to be near the borderline to me. My personal opinion is it might be worth seeing a gender therapist, I mean they will diagnose you as to whether or not they feel you are transsexual, if they don't feel you are transsexual on which they are usually right they just simply won't allow you to proceed forward but it might help you explore and just discover the answer to whether you are transsexual or you are just a cross-dresser.



Good luck anyway.

Answer 4

You gender is established at conception. Probably so is your orientation, but it doesn't kick in until puberty. No amount of mutilation will alter your sex--only make an absolute trainwreck of what you have down there.