What about being in a relationship with a transgendered partner?

Question

There's plenty of info out there about transgendered people and how to deal with coming out to their partner etc.

But i can't seem to find anything for people in a relationship with a trangendered partner. Do you know of any books or websites?


I was in a lesbian relationship and now my partner identifies as being a gender bender. I just want to know how i should deal with this so that our relationship gets through it. How should i identify myself? And what can i do to support my partner?

Any ideas?

Answer 1

wow, tough one, try amizon.com....great place to find books for all kinds of stuff.



Identify yourself how you feel comfortable. If your still comfortable in the relationship and with your partners decison, then keep supporting him as his partner, if not, then support him as a great friend.

Answer 2

I have an acquaintance that is in a relationship with a transgendered woman (FTM). She identifies herself as Queer now, as she explained it to me she feels she can no longer call herself a lesbian because her partner has gone through with his gender reassignment surgery. I can understand what she is saying, but I feel that it is an individual choice as to how you identify. If I were you I would contact PFLAG and see what resources they have available to you. Best wishes to you and your partner.







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Answer 3

I kinda liken this to a fetish, like somebody who likes men in leather jackets, so I don't classify it as a sexual orientation. Sorry, I can't be of any help. I would say basic relationship rules apply across the board to all situations.