Question:
My wife is bisexual...I am completely for it. How do I support her in this.?
anonymous
2011-05-08 18:43:31 UTC
Before I met my wife I knew she was bisexual. She has only had 2 or 3 "relationships" with women and all others were sexual. She prefers true relationships with men. Well we have been together over three years and married a year and three months of that. We have a daughter and a wonderful life together. We have often talked about her past endeavors with women mainly because she knows I find extremely exciting to hear those things. Out of the 3 odd years the only thing she has done with a woman is make out with one. She has never asked to do anything further because she tells me she would consider it cheating on her behalf. I've told her I would have no problem if she had sexual relations with other women, in fact I've encouraged it. I have told her that I love her all of her and aside from my attraction to the idea alone, I told her that couldn't live with myself if I told her she had to close that part of herself off on my account. I can't expect her to not ever do that again. She still feels like she would be cheating, but she also does not want to go the rest of her without being with at least one other woman. I then again assured her that I am more than ok with her having random encounters to even cooperative excursions under her stipulation that the other woman doesn't touch me on count of her dying if she did. Lol. I've told her I have no desire to be with another woman much less have sex with another woman, just that I would like to be in the room with her sometimes if she were having sex with one and maybe she could do some things with me after the other woman. I say all this to ask if I am being as supportive as possible or is there more I could do, I don't want her to feel ashamed or alienated at all for who she is. I love my wife and always will, I just want her to know that.
Eight answers:
Nadya
2011-05-08 18:52:42 UTC
I agree with Jamie you dont need to encourage her. All you need do is let her know that you love her and are open to the possibility if she found herself in that situation you would not leave her. That's all she needs to know. As for being in the room while she's having sex with another woman do you realise for women being bisexual is more than sex it's a personal relationship? That's why she considers it cheating. Be careful with how much you push this - it's good you're being supportive but it shouldn't be for your excitement and pleasure it's for her, if it's to be at all. Good luck to you both
Melody♫♪
2011-05-09 02:11:54 UTC
I also agree with Jamie I think the reason why you think her being with another man is bad because you see him as a threat because the man has a penis and the woman doesn't and you think with bisexual woman all they want to do is have sex with women and it can not get emotional plus she doesn't have a penis so it is no treat to you . Also the thought of her having sex with a woman turns you her running back and telling you what she did with these other woman also you could be holding on to the possibility of her inviting the other woman to have a 3some with you and her .



As a bisexual woman my self this discourages me from dating the opposite sex because all I'm gonna be seen as is a sex object or a man's personal porn star where he can have his 3some fantasy with as a bisexual l would like to be taken seriously . I think that's why she doesn't want to do it either because she wants you to take her seriously and not see her in this light .

If I were with a lesbian she wouldn't think about me this way she want a real relationship with me and not want to have 3some fantasies with me , she will like me for me and who I am as a person not because of this fantasy and with men I face this type of dilemma



I had a boyfriend that told me the same thing you did and I thought that in his eyes all I was little his sex toy he doesn't take me seriously .

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anonymous
2011-05-09 01:50:49 UTC
not all bisexual people Need to sleep with whatever gender they're not in a relationship with. some prefer to, but some straight people prefer a similar situation. it just depends on the person themselves, but sleeping with both genders in the same time frame isn't necessarily a part of that sexuality.



i find it kinda odd that she doesn't want you to do anything with the other woman. i know you don't want to, but i would be a bit put off if she were that against it, but not so much against sleeping with someone else herself. i'd think if one's not allowed to do it, the other one's not allowed to either; that's just how it'd work if this were my relationship. this is entirely your issue though, so whatever works for you works.
allen baney
2011-05-09 02:10:19 UTC
Well, she knows that you don't have a problem with it, so she can do it if she wants to. You should encourage her to though. That makes it seem like you're a perv, so does wanting to be in the same room. And as other people said before, do not ask for a threesome. All this makes it seem like you're a perv
Robin
2011-05-09 01:52:05 UTC
The number one thing you DON'T want to do is ask her is if she wants to have a threesome with another woman. Think about this: since she is into BOTH men and women, maybe she would want a threesome with another man rather than a woman?
Jamie
2011-05-09 01:46:54 UTC
Don't encourage her to go out and sleep with others for one, that's not necessarily a part of being bisexual. Just continue to love her and support her, nothing needs to change between you two.
anonymous
2011-05-09 01:47:22 UTC
Just dont say ,"Can we have a threesome now ?" thatll piss her off
anonymous
2011-05-09 01:51:06 UTC
Heres what you do

1. Introduce you wife to a hot chick, preferably bi

2. Invite her over

3. Nail both of them


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