Im not gay but my dad is a homophobe what can i do to make him change his mind?

Question

Im a very open minded person and i have no prejudices. I believe that if a person wants to be a homosexual than they have a right to be one. But i hate people that hate gay people just because they are gay.(i guess hating homophobes is a prejudice) Even though i am not very close to my father it still disturbs me that hes a homophobe, hes already an asshole and the fact that he is homophobic just makes me want to kick his ***. What can I do to make him more open-minded?

Answer 1

nothing. the idea of homophobia has been drilled into his brain sense birth. he can choose to open up his mind a little and see the real world, but you can't make him. my dad is the same way...except my situation is a little worse since i'm openly gay haha. luckily, i realized a lot of the stuff i used to know was lies at a fairly early age or I might still be like him



btw, not sure if you already know this, but i couldn't help but notice you said "wants to be a homsexual." you don't choose to be gay. when you are born, you have so much testosterone (boy hormone) and estrogen (girl hormone) in you. the ratio of the two determines your sexuality.



no, no. it's all good. im happy to explain it to someone who's actually willing to listen.

Answer 2

Nothing, you can yell, scream, and kick his *** all you want to but I doubt he will change, he can tell you he likes gay people but honestly, you will never know if thats a lie or not because there is no way to change a person's mind on will alone. The person has to actually believe what you are saying and if they don't then it's pointless. I know how you feel, I am straight and I really hate homophobes too and it makes me angry to hear anti-gay comments and insults because I think that gay people are very kind natured, when you think about it, about every single crime or terrible event in history was caused by a heterosexual so I don't see how gay people are a problem. Just ignore him, if you don't like him then just call the relationship off, don't surround yourself with people who make you upset or angry no matter who they are. Also, a person is born with their sexual orientation, nobody really chooses that (cause you said if a person wanted to be gay).

Answer 3

People who are homophobes aren't bad people. They have opinions, just like you have an opinion of your dad. To me, they are sad people who feel hatred because they don't know what else to feel. I agree that homophobes are wrong because anyone should be allowed to love whoever they want, no matter what. And if you two aren't close, there might not be much you can do. Talk to him if you like, suggest he get help. Make him watch Brokeback Mountain (great movie btw). I would feel equally as disturbed if it was my father.

Btw thanks for your answer to my question, it meant a lot to me.

Answer 4

You can't really do anything because he's your father and all. Same here, I have no problem with gay people too. I just wish that people can be really open-minded. All these god freaks are a bunch of hypocrites anyway. They support human rights, but they hate people who are just different from them.

Answer 5

Exactly what that mr hippie guy said, don't do anything.

You're better off just leaving him be, if you really are open minded, then you should be able to respect others prejudices =P. Thats TRULY being open minded.



But seriously, nothing good will come from it, so don't bother trying.

Answer 6

Nothing you can do really. Trust me, people don't change.

Answer 7

tell him you're gay and see how he reacts.