i think it's fate. god made gays and lesbians that way much like he made judas to betray him in the end. god knew that judas would betray him but as judas was destined to be that way, god did nothing and let fate have its way. indeed, god did nothing to change the destiny of judas because it was his destiny, his fate. thus if god could make people's fate like that of judas, who says he can't make gays and lesbians because after all he's all powerful. it's not so much about the misconception that god does not like gay people. that's bulshit. if he did't, he would have struck them down with lightning and thunder the minute they were born.
being gay is hard and if these gay people had a choice, they would not have been gay. the fact of the matter is that they don't have a choice except to be themselves and suffer the discrimination brought about by people who think that they are so righteous and superior to those who are gay. the truth is they are just arrogant, narrow-minded and obnoxious people who think so highly of themselves. if it were really a choice, the choice would have been between being discriminated against and being untrue to one's self. is there really a choice?
anonymous
2016-03-27 04:01:06 UTC
I don't think a straight man would *chose* to want to get pounded in the arze. homosexuality is a chemical imbalance, not a choice. it's usually psychological; someone may have an inferiority complex due to being molested or abused. usually those who were mistreated by a male would become like the submissive homosexual. On the other hand, those who were mistreated by a female might develop dominant homosexuality; a superiority complex that's only satisfied by sexually-dominating another male or by treating women like trash, which is why woman-haters or "players" are so popular these days, they're usually repressed homosexuals. Otherwise, it could actually be a hormonal imbalance from birth. It's never been seen to be genetic but drug-use or too much estrogen from the parent given to a fetus can cause it to be a male homosexual. For lesbians, it's the same pattern but the opposite balance. So I doubt if *being* a homosexual is always a choice but the practice of homosexuality is definitly a choice, unless you're sleep & the other pervs molest you ;0
shrtstff72
2006-03-29 01:13:53 UTC
I believe it's fate. I was with men all my life and was miserable. I always felt as though something vital was missing. 4 years ago I met a woman who was first my friend. We both were in relationships, which simultaneously fell apart. My bf was abusive, her gf cheated. After a year, we started seeing each other. After the first date, we kissed good night, and I felt that fairy-tale fluttering of the heart. Now she is not only my best friend, but the one who holds my heart and always will. We now live happily together with our children and wait (not-so-patiently) for laws to make our union legal. If that isn't fate, I don't know what is.
My sweetie maintains that she was born gay, and has always known it. So I guess it depends on your perspective.
My own mother says she knew I was gay all along. I wish she had told ME!! LOL!!!
P.S. I don't think it's a choice, because who would willingly subject themselves to the horrible things that can happen by simply acknowledging their homosexuality?
killerb144
2006-03-29 00:55:20 UTC
It's probably more of a psycological thing rather than a genetic thing. Some people are born with psychological traits, other people develope them over time. I do not believe it's genetic and I do not believe that it cannot be changed.
I believe that a person can choose to be gay, and I believe the converse is also true. It probably has more to do with what a person actually wants and is willing to do and believe than what the truth actually is. No one seems to ever want the true truth when they could be happy.
anonymous
2006-03-29 00:56:16 UTC
loads of reasons...some people were born gay ....some choose to help out when we are busy.....some pretend to be gay if its trendy...some are gay but pretend to be straight because of peer pressure.......at the end of a day doesn't really matter as long as its between two consenting adults and doesn't interfere with anyone else. Some people ARE born gay and to suggest that they are able to change is crazy! I personally think that this strange obsession of some people who continually bang on about the rights and wrongs of homosexuality have some sort of hidden agenda.....maybe if they had a fulfilling happy life they would be too busy to interfere with other peoples.....if the cap fits ...wear it!!
melissa
2006-03-29 00:56:50 UTC
Fate.
We all know we can't help who we love. And i'm sure god wouldn't want us to just "suck it up" amd marry someone else because it is the norm. Life would be a big lie. that's unfair to the gay person and the person that gay person married.
Rene
2006-03-29 00:53:32 UTC
If I had to choose I would say fate. Nobody chooses to be gay. It just happens. Nobody would chose to go through all the crap gay people are put through by society.
Ela Jecan
2006-03-29 00:57:44 UTC
I think it's choice. I don't believe in fate.
hey yo
2006-03-29 00:53:27 UTC
I believe it is a choice. Fate would mean that God approved of it..and we all know that aint so.
btataan
2006-03-29 00:58:54 UTC
being a gay is a choice God did not created Gays even lesbiands. Read your bible and you will know that gay are never allowed however God does not condemn if u repent.
Jenova
2006-03-29 00:55:06 UTC
I think it's fate that a homosexual happens to be.
But then, I think it's choice, when it comes to deciding whether he should act upon his desires or not.
Jenova
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chaudharyg
2006-03-29 00:53:29 UTC
Choice, you have only one life to live.
antisocial_smurf
2006-03-29 00:52:57 UTC
some people say its genetic,
which means since gay's cant reproduce, being gay is like having down syndrome....
anonymous
2006-03-29 01:20:17 UTC
It's the same question of nature vs. nurture. I personally think your born with your sexual perference.