Can anyone help me with some worries I'm having about experimenting with my best friend?

Question

Today, my best friend and I, who are both 15 years old, agreed that we will "experiment" together pretty soon. We have been best friends for about 10 years and we are very open with each other about our experiences during puberty. We both agree that we are such good friends that we can do this once without ruining our friendship or becoming bi/homo (we're both straight by the way). I just have a few concerns that I want re-assurance on.

First, are we stupid for thinking that this won't ruin our friendship and we won't become bi/homo? I've seen a few people on Yahoo Answers say that experimenting made them turn bi/gay. Or is it possible to remain straight best friends after experimenting?

Secondly, we both want to know what exactly is done while experimenting. Did you guys go all out when you experimented or what did you do?

And finally, is it at all possible to get an STD if neither of us have ever had sex before this?

Thanks for any helpful answers.

Answer 1

No one turns gay. You either are, or you're not. You may be unsure of your orientation. The very fact that you want to experiment means you're not as straight as you think. But if you still have a sexual response to women, then you're not gay and won't "become" gay.



A disease can't be transmitted from someone who has never been exposed to the disease (come on, that's easy). But you can't be absolutely certain he's a virgin, even if he says he is, and he can't be absolutely certain you are, even if you say you are. So, play safe.



As to what to do: It's whatever you feel like doing. Play it by ear.



Will it ruin your friendship? If you've been friends since you were 5 years old, it seems unlikely. It might make it feel weird for a bit, but I doubt that.



Do absolutely straight guys experiment? Sure, but it's more a competitive thing than anything else.



Go with your feelings. They'll be right most of the time.

Answer 2

things don't make people "become" gay, but rather realize it. if you're straight your straight and if you're gay/bi your gay/bi.



Experimenting is pretty much just sex. there's nothing that specifically happens during it, and you're friendship may or may not last, but that all depends on how you feel after you do it.



It's impossible to pass on STD's if you don't have them and you can only catch them from sexual encounters. You should know that if you've ever had a sex ed or health class.

Answer 3

1. It may or may not affect your friendship. I mean, probably it won't because you've been best buddies since Kindergarten.



But if either of you is hung up about nakedness or sex -- like if one of you thinks it is bad or wrong -- then it could cause a strain on your relationship for a while.



However, if you totally like each other and trust each other, and you both realize that bodies and sexuality are cool and good, then you should be okay.



Talk it over first to be sure you don't have issues of fear, or guilt, or religious shame, or huge anxiety that you might be gay.



If you are both happy, natural, and comfortable with being naked together, it should just be fun.



1A. You can't turn gay. It's like being right-handed, left-handed or ambidextrous. You are born wired either straight, gay, or bisexual. It's just who you are. If you two are just doing this to know what it feels like to share an orgasm with someone, and what it's like to be naked with someone, it won't turn you gay if you are not already gay.



However, if one or the other of you crushes on guys, falls in love with guys and fantasizes about guys when masturbating, well, this could be an experience that would switch your gay on high.



In other words, if you are straight and share orgasms, you'll like it a lot, but you won't suddenly fall in love with each other. But if you already have gay tendencies, one of you might fall in love. Hope that makes sense.



2. Only do what you are comfortable doing together.



If it's just about snuggling naked and practicing kissing, cool.

If it's about jerking each other off for the joy of orgasm, cool.

If it's about sucking each other off to know what oral feels like on both ends, cool.



Do NOT do anal together. That is much more complex and should be done only with a gay boyfriend you are in love with, because it hurts a lot the first few times and is a big commitment.



Stick to only snuggling, jerking or oral -- whatever you feel cool with.



Do NOT be embarrassed -- both of you are healthy guys, have penises that get big, and both of you come. That's just part of being a guy!



3. If neither of you have slept naked with someone and done oral or vaginal or anal sex, then you are both totally disease free and will remain totally disease free. If you're clean, you're clean! I mean, STDs don't just appear by magic. If you are both total virgins, and have never shared oral or intercourse with someone else, you *cannot* give each other an STD.



So it's up to you. Do you want to have some experience, just for fun and learning? Maybe to feel comfortable with your bodies and sex? Then that's totally cool.



Have a nice time! And feel free to laugh, or to be tender. You are two awesome guys -- be happy.

Answer 4

first time i experimented it lasted for 12hrs on a sleepover at 14 i think, it was awsome. well i was awsome should i say, nah we both were. but those beautiful days are over with, now i just sh@g anything that walks.



be cool and always always use protection.<-----be warned.

Answer 5

Experimenting is fun!





If you like it, that's when things change!