Are people really born gay?

Question

I need a good answer.

I have two fathers and one says he was born gay, one says this:

"Babies aren't born with the ability to love. People aren't probably born gay just as straight people aren't born straight. It's something you develop, but you don't choose it, and it's not caused by past issues."

Is he right? Do you think he's right? The ability to fall in love with the same gender is something you grow? Not something you're born with?

Answer 1

When people say "you're born gay" it doesn't literally mean three hours after birth you're already springing a ***** for the other male baby next to you at the hospital.



It means that whatever it is that makes people gay, either genes or hormones or some kind of brain anomaly, is already there and waiting to be activated.



For example, babies are born without the ability to orgasm, but in a few months the body develops that ability. So, technically speaking, one is born with the ability to orgasm because it was just waiting to be activated by the body.

Answer 2

I used to think that because I was born in a family of women (four sisters and mom), I acted more feminine, developed a liking for men and hence, became gay. My dad was always in the army so I was left with women the whole time. I became more comfortable with them. I used to get nervous around guys cuz they made fun of the way i talked, walked and carried myself. So I spent a lot of time indoors just playing with my sisters. At that time, i was far too young to say anything about my life but i did know that i'd slowly started developing a liking for guys. Later on, in my late teens, for the longest time, I thought I was forced to be gay just of the circumstances and the situations i grew in. But then as I'm growing up as a person, I realize that it's a matter of discovering yourself. Some people know they're gay when they're 3, some people come to find out when they're in their teens. Some ppl hide it all through and come out at 40s or 50s. My point is yes, ppl are born gay but it's a matter of discovering it. Sure, the environment around you affects you, you act straight, u act gay, feminine, whatever...but the gayness is still there unaffected. It's not something you develop or have a choice. It's a matter of you seeing it, discovering it. Looking back, even if i grew up in a macho male environment, I'd still be gay. I may not have known it. I might have gone through different phases experimenting girls or whatever but i'm still gay cuz i was born gay. And i woulda discovered and realized it at a later stage of my life. So to answer ur question, gays are born gay.

Answer 3

Scientific researchers specializing in human sexuality have shown that homosexuality is genetic.



Scientific research publications from October 2004 and June 2008 stated that scientists have found that women tend to have more children when they inherit the same genetic factors linked to homosexuality in men. This fertility boost more than compensates for the lack of offspring fathered by gay men, and keeps the “gay” genetic factors in circulation.



A 2005 study reported genetic scans showing a clustering of the same genetic pattern among gay men on three chromosomes - chromosomes 7, 8, and 10. The regions on chromosome 7 and 8 were associated with male sexual orientation regardless of whether the man got them from his mother or father. The regions on chromosome 10 were only associated with male sexual orientation if they were inherited from the mother.



A study from 2006 said that researchers have known for years that a man's likelihood of being gay rises with the number of older biological brothers, but the new study found that the so-called "fraternal birth order effect" persists even if gay men were raised away from their biological families & that "the research suggests that the development of sexual orientation is influenced before birth."

Answer 4

Human sexuality is determined at birth, just as it is with other animals. In fact, bisexual and homosexual behavior has been documented in more than 450 animal species worldwide. The book Biological Exuberance is a great compilation of this research. There are just as many gays and lesbians now as there ever were before -- about 10% of the overall population. This is true everywhere in the world. The only difference is how open people are able to be about their sexuality. Needless to say, in countries where homosexuality is illegal, gay culture is driven underground.

Answer 5

I think a lot of people are confused by the "born gay" phrase. They automatically hone in on new born babes, and their lack of ability to socialize, let alone love.



Look at it this way, a female is born with all of her eggs in place, as a person is born with their sexuality wired within their brain. It isn't until later in life that a woman's eggs mature, and are released for reproduction. It also isn't until later that a person matures, and their sexuality becomes apparent.

Answer 6

I completely disagree with the father you quoted.



I did not choose to be gay, nor was I influenced to be this way. It involved no force, coercion, pleading, experimentation, molestation, or even being tempted with fabulous prizes.



People are simply born with their sexual orientation pre-wired in their brains. It's right in there among all the other congenital information, such as how to breathe, swallow, blink, think, operate muscles and joints, etc etc etc.



I've heard that some bisexuals claim that their same-sex attraction was the result of experimentation, which is fine and dandy for them. But there's no such fluidity where strict homosexuality and heterosexuality are concerned -- you're either one or the other, and it's there from birth.



But if your quoted father believes that he chose to be gay, then fine. He's entitled to his opinions and beliefs. But trust me, they are not shared by very many other people. What really matters is that both your parents are together, and that they love you. Speculations about nature are ultimately not that important. :-)

Answer 7

i can say for sure that i was born gay. and i know that when i was a baby i DID love my mother and father, grand parents and probably everyone i came in contact with. you see, babies are born with love and trust. as far as growing into it? i would have to agree you are not born knowing what gender you prefer it develops as you grow just like your body grows and develops. as a baby you are unaware of sex, but at a young age probably around 9-13 or even puberty you do have a scence of what your attracted to sexually even if you don't understand it.

Answer 8

These people that say being gay is not something you're born with are NOT gay so they wouldn't know...ask a gay person and they'll give you the answer which is...I was born gay. I remember my first crush was a boy in elementary school...in kindergarten

Answer 9

if love is so strong why do ppl care where it comes from ?? im gay so either if i was born that way or i became it i dont care

Answer 10

No. People change orientations over time because of puberty, their feelings change. You don't know what you like usually when you're so young.

Answer 11

Yes. They are. While they may not be aware of their orientation, people are born that way.

Answer 12

no ones born gay. its as unrealistic as global warming. thats why you dont see john chasing john on the playground in elementary school but instead you see john chasing lucy or sally or samantha. theres nothing wrong with being gay but i solely think its a decision.

Answer 13

no i dont believe that .