My son told me he wants to be a girl?

Question

My 17 year old son just told me he wants to be a girl and is transgendered. I kind of had thought that he might be because I am always noticing that my clothes and makeup are "disappearing" and are out of place as well as my daughter's clothes and makeup. I have caught him numerous times dressed as a girl as well. But anyway, he told me that he has the brain of a girl and the body of a boy and that he wants to take female hormones and start dressing as a girl. He also told me that I should start using female pronouns but I don't really feel comfortable with that. He also says that he will want to start dating boys. I just don't know what to say to all of this. What should I do or tell him?

Answer 1

Ok first please visit PFLAG, there is a section for parents to read. Now 2, don't blame yourself or her or anyone else. It's not a choice, its honestly the way she was born. It's already been proven that it has to do with the brain. Be a supportive parent, she is your daughter and you should love her no matter what. Don't turn your back, it's REALLY hard for LGBT people to open up and live a life they are suppose to be living. Love her, and stay by her side, and when you get older she will return the favor.

Answer 2

Does it matter? Honestly just because he has told u now doesn't mean he s any different.

. U had already seen him cross dressing... he s very different compared to MOST people... but he is him... his very own self is his very normal self...



U have a daughter.. so what if u have another one?



The world is probably going to treat him harshly... don't add to that harshness.. give him unconditional love because he all need it

Answer 3

This is an incredibly difficult thing to do.

I understand you might not be comfortable referring to someone you always thought as your son as a "she." But the world is going to make it hard enough for her. The more uncomfortable you are with it, the harder time she'll have. The nicer and more understanding you are, the easier it'll be for her to face the world.

Answer 4

I think he's just having a hard time



Being surrounded by girls maybe in school or family makes him feel like this



But you have to explain that god made him a boy not a girl



+ if he did a trans surgery 90% of the community will treat him harshly and will make fun of him

Answer 5

Take it one day at a time, this is a big change to adapt to. And take "Clones Don't Have 300K" advice. She knows what she's talking about.

Answer 6

If this is true, tell him you'll do everything that you can to make him comfortable with his realization.



Congrats: This appears to be the first "my son is gay/my son is transsexual" question of the weekend. (These sorts of questions ALWAYS turn up on the weekends and ALWAYS by someone who posts "anonymously". I wonder why...)

Answer 7

accept her for who 'she' is , im sure 'she' is lovely either way(: let her do what she wants and dont prevent her from doing anything she wants 😁✌️

Answer 8

Say you love him no matter what. If you respect him, you will start using female pronouns. It will take time, but never stop loving him(her).